Is this cheating?

MrsDiscontented · 05-09-2012, 06:34 AM

I am hoping that someone on here can help me?

My hubby of 9yrs has a sex blog, which he's had since 2010.
I discovered last night, after gaining access to his emails, there was a woman in USA he was in contact with for around 6months back in sept 2010- feb 2011. They would arrange private, late night chats online. There were photos of her etc and after reading all the communication it appears they were meeting online regularly. There has been no contact from her since around feb 2011, however I suspect he has subscribed to another account and continues his chats.

My problem is that he laughed, said she was fat and its not an affair cos he'll never meet her. He hasn't appologised or really talked or comforted me. I feel dejected and very unhappy. I cannot tell anyone cos of his blog-he doesn't want anyone to know.

I would really kill for some advice right now

Almostrecovered · 05-09-2012, 06:39 AM

well he hid it from you because he knew you would not approve, yes?

then it was cheating, it was a sexually charged EA (emotional affair)

time to get a keylogger on his computer

MrsDiscontented · 05-09-2012, 06:41 AM

what's a key logger

Count of Monte Cristo · 05-09-2012, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered

well he hid it from you because he knew you would not approve, yes?

then it was cheating, it was a sexually charged EA (emotional affair)

time to get a keylogger on his computer

Almostrecovered · 05-09-2012, 06:45 AM

keylogger is a program that runs undetected on a computer that records all keystrokes, takes screenshots every so often and will even email you the results. This way you can get to the bottom of what he is actually doing.

Humble Pie · 05-09-2012, 06:46 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsDiscontented

I am hoping that someone on here can help me?

My hubby of 9yrs has a sex blog, which he's had since 2010.
I discovered last night, after gaining access to his emails, there was a woman in USA he was in contact with for around 6months back in sept 2010- feb 2011. They would arrange private, late night chats online. There were photos of her etc and after reading all the communication it appears they were meeting online regularly. There has been no contact from her since around feb 2011, however I suspect he has subscribed to another account and continues his chats.

My problem is that he laughed, said she was fat and its not an affair cos he'll never meet her. He hasn't appologised or really talked or comforted me. I feel dejected and very unhappy. I cannot tell anyone cos of his blog-he doesn't want anyone to know.

I would really kill for some advice right now

to answer your question: is it cheating? I would say how do you feel about it? and I assume by your post, you do not agree with this behavior, so it certianly is cheating. He was sharing himself with another woman. Also, behind your back, two big "cheating" characteristics.

MrsDiscontented · 05-09-2012, 06:55 AM

Thanks for replies

I was dreading tellling, as have to admit thought I'd never be in this situation.

Well after telling him it is cheating he was in total denial last night. He can't see past his own nose and thinks he can persuade me that its ok.

recommend any partic keyloggers?

Almostrecovered · 05-09-2012, 07:06 AM

go to cnet.com and look at the reviews and features that you want

MrsDiscontented · 05-09-2012, 07:10 AM

Thank you Almostrecovered

Hope1964 · 05-09-2012, 10:54 AM

Darn right he's cheating. You need to take a stand. It's probably only a matter of time before he moves from his fantasy world into reality too, and starts physically meeting up with women. That's exactly what my hubby did.

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whatsup · 05-09-2012, 11:14 AM

when in doubt hack the spouses computer and steal all their data. bonus points if you take their credit card info and route the money into foreign bank accounts

MrsDiscontented · 05-09-2012, 04:06 PM

youre right 1964 but i have kids and to b honest hat seems a bit far fetched whatsup especially the foreign bank acc info. I'm many things but money grabber is not one of them so i'll not take your advise there but just thank you for offering info up

lordmayhem · 05-09-2012, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsDiscontented

youre right 1964 but i have kids and to b honest hat seems a bit far fetched whatsup especially the foreign bank acc info. I'm many things but money grabber is not one of them so i'll not take your advise there but just thank you for offering info up

Far fetched? Look, it doesn't matter how many kids you have. It can happen
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Hope1964 · 05-09-2012, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsDiscontented

youre right 1964 but i have kids and to b honest hat seems a bit far fetched whatsup especially the foreign bank acc info. I'm many things but money grabber is not one of them so i'll not take your advise there but just thank you for offering info up

Sorry, I don't understand this.

Read my story (link in sig) if you think it's farfetched that he will move from fantasy to reality. And what do kids have to do with it?!?!

You can just ignore whatsup's post.