Guess he could be out of town too - he does travel for work sometimes.
The same person who sent me an anonymous letter alerting me to the affair with photographs also sent a letter to the OW's husband. The photographs show them kissing. My husband finally admitted it was a PA, too, but said the OW claimed she would deny that it was a PA to her husband.
Through the grapevine I have heard that he still does not believe the letter is true.
The OW denied everything and he chose to believe her. She claimed my spouse was the pursuer, something I know not to be true. She told her husband there was no sex, only flirting and some kissing. This woman was a known serial cheater. She prior cheated with a good friend's spouse and they all socialized together with both Betrayed spouses clueless
I don't know why. He is well off and attractive and the OW my husband was seeing is not on a par with her husband. Her husband is better looking in my eyes.
I'm sure he doesn't see it as a joke - but I'm not certain if he cares anymore. My H isn't the only one in town she's screwed, so I think in a way he's become numb. His good Catholic upbringing won't let him leave her, so he's turned a blind eye. Hell of a way to get to heaven, but to each their own I guess.
I'd think he'd disregard the letter thinking it's someones attempt at being funny. Easier to believe that then the truth which is his wife is cheating on him.
No way - he knows me - I was his wife's best friend when she got involved with my H - there's nothing funny about it and he's aware that they were seeing each other. She told him they were "just friends" - my letter should have opened his eyes to the fact that they were much more than that - but, he may have already known it and that's why he's not responded.
True, Keko, but we never know what deals other people may have made with themselves to get through life. Maybe they have an open marriage. Maybe he decided long ago to turn a blind eye to any affairs in order to keep his standing as a community leader in the Catholic Church. Maybe he is just regrouping and trying to figure out what to do. We don't know. We never will, either...
Keko - pretty much, yes. I know of 5 including my H, but there may be more. All of the 5 were married at he time - though some are now divorced.
Lamaga is absolutely right - we'll never know. In hindsight, I wish I'd have made an effort to talk with her H in the beginning - there is strength in numbers ... but I knew nothing about exposure back then - thought taking the "high road" was the way to go. Silly me!
I'm sure he doesn't see it as a joke - but I'm not certain if he cares anymore. My H isn't the only one in town she's screwed, so I think in a way he's become numb. His good Catholic upbringing won't let him leave her, so he's turned a blind eye. Hell of a way to get to heaven, but to each their own I guess.
Yes. this woman's husband is a good catholic, too. Also, He is Polish and so is she and their families wanted them to marry only Polish people so i guess that narrows his choices.
Still, the catholic church allows divorce in the case where the spouse is a known cheater.
This man could actually have the marriage annulled with the church's blessing. She did not honor her vows.
Infidelity is a major sin in the eyes of the Catholic church.
I'm sure he doesn't see it as a joke - but I'm not certain if he cares anymore. My H isn't the only one in town she's screwed, so I think in a way he's become numb. His good Catholic upbringing won't let him leave her, so he's turned a blind eye. Hell of a way to get to heaven, but to each their own I guess.
Same here Jinba:
This woman is new to town but is seeing many men, goes to ladies clubs weekly, where men strip and she talks about other woman as if she is sexually attracted to them, too.
Still, her husband is defending her according to the grapevine. He actually scoffed and told someone nothing mentioned in the letter ever happened.
This OW is a phony and a very very good liar. When my husband was outed, she told him to deny everything and never stop denying it. She told him to never admit that they had sex or dated or anything.
She is a very manipulative person. She uses men for the things they buy her and places they take her.
She is a bored housewife who has no intellect and no clue how to entertain herself, so she looks for married men to entertain her while her husband is working his butt off, during the day and sometimes at night claiming she is out with the girls.
I believe she has him totally bamboozled because she acts so sweet and innocent.
Her texts and email were really filled with pornographic imagery. She appears to be a sex addict.
Keko - pretty much, yes. I know of 5 including my H, but there may be more. All of the 5 were married at he time - though some are now divorced.
Lamaga is absolutely right - we'll never know. In hindsight, I wish I'd have made an effort to talk with her H in the beginning - there is strength in numbers ... but I knew nothing about exposure back then - thought taking the "high road" was the way to go. Silly me!
Yes, but you closed the loop on this by sending the letter. You deserve massive points for bravery and doing the right thing all around--there were STDs involved and the letter was very professional and dignified.
But again, there is no point in interpreting silence.
Maybe the letter got stuck between some junk mail and fell into the recycling bin.
Maybe he read the letter, ran home sobbing and confronted her.
Maybe he's getting an annulment for fraud because of something he knows about her that you don't and he's getting the paperwork together. People mock annulments, but there are specific grounds that you are expected to disclose before marrying and if you don't your spouse is entitled to one under Church law.
Or maybe he's waiting for the mothership to come and beam her up.
Turns out that no news is NOT good news. Had conversation with H last night - STD screening at the top of the list. Found out OW texted him about the letter I sent to her H - a warning or sorts. Rather than tell me, he texted her back with a TX - no transparency here - this sucks.
Turns out that no news is NOT good news. Had conversation with H last night - STD screening at the top of the list. Found out OW texted him about the letter I sent to her H - a warning or sorts. Rather than tell me, he texted her back with a TX - no transparency here - this sucks.
Point blank asked him if he'd heard from her lately. At least he didn't lie - but it was days ago and he said nothing until he had to. After much discussion, I think he finally "gets it" - but it's still another nail in the coffin of my trust.
And "TX" - WTH - that's letting her know he appreciated the heads up. She's a whack job - and those two letters could cause her to think they still have a connection - so what the hell was he thinking?
I let him read the letter I sent to her H and he agreed that it was the responsible thing to do because of the HPV and Genital Warts. We don't know if her H let her read the letter or not. Thinking my next letter should be to her - with a copy of the one I sent to her H - set the B**ch straight and tell her we're done playing her games.
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Re: Exposure - is no news good news? 
