As some of you might remember, I mailed an exposure letter to OW's H last Monday, and he should have received it by now. I really expected a response ... from someone. Mostly I thought OW would call my H and come unglued.
Did you send the mail certified so that only he could sign for it? Did you include a request for him to contact you so that you know if he received it or not? Any number of things could have happened:
OW already spun a story to her BH, telling him that a batsh!t crazy jealous woman may try to contact him and she's out to ruin her marriage, so he shouldn't believe anything coming from you
OWH is having his DDay as a result of your letter and is still processing things and may be in shock
Either way, you did the right thing. OWH deserves to know this information about what kind of woman he's married to and decide the course of his own marriage. And it helps kill the affair in many instances. Whether he contacts you or not is up to him.
OWH knows about the relationship - no denying that. My letter exposed the depth of that relationship and that it was a PA - resulting in me contracting HPV. Prior to my diagnosis, both OWH and I were duped into believing there was no PC - duh, we should have known better.
Don't think mail room would have intercepted either - he's pretty high up on the totem pole and it's a business in a small community.
I'm really wondering if he just doesn't give a damn anymore. She's put him through hell - so maybe he didn't bother sharing it with her, figuring if she has the HPV and suffers because of it that it's deserved.
It's just driving me a bit crazy I guess - I was prepared for some sort of fall out - but, maybe I worried over nothing?
Or he could be in shock and not ready to talk to you. Maybe he is doing some of his own PI work? Who knows, even though I think you did the right thing in sending the letter, this guy might need time to process everything, esp if he had no idea. Also to him your letter is not proof, but an accusation so he may need time to gather his own evidence. Plus I expect he is making a Dr. appt!
Or, he may just be handling things "in house." When my W's first EA was initially exposed to me, OMW left her phone number in case I wanted to contact her. While I considered doing so, I never did. In 20/20 hindsight, I wish I had. No telling what information she might have given me. But, all water under the bridge now. Posted via Mobile Device
If you message him via facebook, I would just include the text of the letter verbatim, no need to say anything new or different, that way he could see (if he already received the letter) that this was all it was, nothing more.
I always think it's impossible to read anything into total silence.