medusa

I am really really getting sick of husband's insults!Today I was looking for a job and he looks at the classifieds and saids oh here's something you can do and he tells me phone sex operator.The he said I can go work at Hooters and starts laughing.That's because makes fun of my breasts he said I could stretch them out like rubber bands and that they look like to flat tires!He also tells me Selma Hayek the actor is beautiful and that I don't look like her.One time some of his friends had invited him to a strip club and i had made some comment.He said I was just mad nobody was going to look at me.husband talks about meI don't know if he's cheating on me or what.If a man cheats will he do it again?

lamaga

That's verbal abuse. You need to address that behavior, whether or not there is any evidence of cheating.

Almostrecovered

well if he isn't cheating he's certainly abusive, why do you put up with it?

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CallaLily

How long have you been married? And why would you put up with these insults. Thats not love or what a loving respectful relationship is about. He sounds like he has some self esteem issues himself. He feels better downing you because of how he feels about himself.

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Hope1964

No way should you put up with that. NO way.

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You can't change someone like this. Accept a life of verbal insults and abuse...or leave him. I would choose the latter. The former is a future of depression and unhappiness.

Leave the rotten to the core man you married. I hope u do not have kids. If you do leave him anyway to show them that that behaviour is unacceptable.

I'mInLoveWithMyHubby

My ex h was along the lines of talking that way. I was pregnant and he always told me how fat I was. My ex was always putting me down telling me how worthless I was and how I was lucky to have found him. I didn't stay long. I left and found a man who fully respects me. My current husband in the last 13 years has never raised his voice at me. He's very kind, a polar opposite then my ex.

I would leave. You don't need to be treated in that way. Your husband is putting you down to make himself/ego feel better. It is verbal abuse. You don't need a husband like this. There are so much nicer men out there to fall in love with who respects you.

Subi

sometimes when i read stuff like that i find it hard to believe that a man can be so abusive of his wife. Yet i have put up with it for too long. It has become such common place in my house that i dont recognise it as abuse. I dont know why. But reading yo thread makes me agree that no woman deserves to be treated like that. Yo thread has made me more aware of my own situation. A lot of my emotions are on ice and have been for a long time. Time to de ice and move on.
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TorontoBoyWest

The question you should be asking is not..

"Why is hubby such an asshat and will he cheat?"

It should be...

"Why do I have so little value in myself that I continually put up with this sh!t?"