MyselfAgain

Consider the following options:
A spouse leaves you to make it "easier" to have an affair
A spouse stays in the home and hides the affair
Do you think one situation make reconciliation more likely?
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DanF

A marriage that is in trouble can not get better if the two people are not together to work on it.

Pit-of-my-stomach

I would tend to think it would be easier for the BS to reconcile with a spouse that left first. Presumably, that would limit the feelings of betrayal by decreasing the need for the DS to lie and decieve the LS while having the affair.

But, it's case by case and there are too many variables to say.

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neither


in both cases the WS is cake eating and has no intentions of stopping or acting remorseful

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If the A is a deal breaker= betrayed leaves
If the A continues=betrayed leaves
If A stops and NC is comfirmed= betrayed stays

Until the AP is completely out of the picture it is a losing battle, So expose the affair and asking the wayward to leave may give the A more time, but often it is this time that is needed to see how much of a fantasy it really is.

So sure the wayward and the AP have more time together, but then whats the excitement in all of that. Now the affair is a reality and with that comes real problems like controlling beahviors and finacial responseablities, and the reality of what these people are realy like when they no longer have to go home to there other life.


There is no other life and now the both of them have to face the real life of the day to day stuff and fact that others see them for what they really are.

Ok I'm done with my rant.