Dude...you can do whatever you want w your life, most of us are just trying to save you more, harder pain down the road.
She wants to "work on things"??
I hope you laughed and said, "guess you shouldn't have divorced me then. Peace out.". Don't go down the rabbit hole. Why would you believe anything she says? She and her fam lied to you repeatedly. Posted via Mobile Device
Balin she cheated. No guy would be buying her tickets etc if he wasn't hoping to get some, and no woman would leave her husband on NYE to be with another guy if she wasn't planning on given some.
She knew the score when she accepted the ticket and she knew it when she left to be with him.
Ok, so when she had him all to herself she didn't like him much. Turns out when she had you all to herself she didn't like you much.
See a pattern here?
If you do even consider her again, demand she take a polygraph to prove no PA. You know what you'll get - a demand that you trust her - because she knows that she can't pass.
Seriously, you're young. You escaped a short marriage to an remorseless cheater. why would you lock yourself back in jail?
She never filed for divorce she saw a lawyer and received council. Funny enough when I confronter her mother about it she was saying that she hoped she would get some advice and a better idea of what she was doing. Such BS i tell you. If you want advice seek a therapist, priset, rabbi, someone in the community you respect, not a divorce lawyer!
I was the one that filed. Just like everything else she never has the balls to confront or deal with issues, wants me to be the fall guy and handle everything.
That lawyer visit just demonstrates the mindset of her trip up to see this guy. She felt like she was free which is why i expect the worse.
She didn't have to file for divorce. She was getting this other guy to finance her affair and leaving you at home. She had complete freedom already - why would she need to put the effort and cost of divorcing you?
Dude, of course she cheated on you. No dude is going to cough out cash for plane tickets in this economy and these gas prices if he WASN'T getting any.
She may have been a great girl once (you married her)...but she ain't no more. And you know it.
Let her feel her regrets over banging some douche in NY during the honeymoon phase of your marriage, instead of spending that time cherishing you, her husband. She doesn't deserve your second thoughts, she knows this, and if you do give in now, she'll respect you even less than she already did. Which clearly wasn't much.
If for some reason you do entertain taking her back (Russian roulette to the extreme), be a different person. Set hard boundaries. Don't expect a hollywood happy ending though, because she blindsided you and lied to you before. Be prepared to throw her crap on the lawn before too long. Posted via Mobile Device
She says she wants me now and that she wants to work on us. She swears that she never had any physical contact with any other guy. Maybe Im just so naive, but I beleive her. Whether or not it was physical it still destroys the fact that another man had courted my ex-wife and she went along.
Im so hurt and I dont want to let go, even though legally im divorced. The collateral dmage is awful too with my family and friends b/c of all the people in the world I was the last person who deserved this.
Another amazing thing to add about the god awful nye weekend. That sunday night I saved an old womans life as she was choking and I perforomed the hemlich with her laying on her back. It was an out of body experience bc she would have died. No joke! She was blue and limp, and was in and out of conscioiusness. The whole restaurant exploeded with applause and I was on cloud 9, but only for a moment as my wife was away. I told her this story via text and she said some lame remark. I dont know about you but somewhere I was hoping to prove my worth and hvae her say she is lucky to have someone like me. Im not a big spiritual person, but I guess if she didnt leave I would have never been in that restaurant and saved this womans life.
She travelled against your wishes to go have sex with another man. So now it might be ok because it may have just been one man. Like that is not disrespectful enough. She lied to you before.
The thing is she has proved she cannot be trusted, does not respect you and is willing to spread her legs for another man just because she wanted to.
As has been stated her family enabled this cheating.
You do not have children with this woman. Do you really want to have children with a woman like this. You do not want to have children that take any of her traits. Find someone better.
Realize too that taking her back at all shows low value period. She will just cuckold you again ... and again. Have some self respect. You do not need this woman in your life. Find a worthy woman.
8 months into the marriage and she cheats on you? More than that, the absolute lack of respect should be the deal breaker. Right now, she is feeling lonely and wants attention
All the comments here are all the feelings I have been feeling and its more confirmation that going through with the divorce was the right move. I want to make it clear that I filed for divorce even though she saw a layer before me. After what I went through one would think if she wanted to reconcile she would have had that ah ha moment and offer up transparency. Nope! she never opened her life. I explain it like this. If an innocent man was acused of murder trust me he would call in the POPE to dismiss him. We continuosly argue bc I am hurt bc of her actions yet she does nothing to win me back or do something nice? Why wont she do it? If the most important person in your world was leaving wouldnt you do something?? Im just so much different than she is. They say when a heart breaks it doesnt break even.
We continuosly argue bc I am hurt bc of her actions yet she does nothing to win me back or do something nice? Why wont she do it? If the most important person in your world was leaving wouldnt you do something??
Obviously you aren't the most important person in her life.
I think you should stop even accepting any contact from her. Honestly, she's kinda evil for what she did, and without any remorse at all.
Drop this chick completely out of your life - block her email, phone etc. Don't respond to anything from her it only slows do you moving on.
As for moving on, get out and see some women they'll help you stay clear of thoughts of letting her back in, and you'll find out that other women aren't like her. And that's a darn good thing because she's just nasty.
Why wont she do it? If the most important person in your world was leaving wouldnt you do something?? Im just so much different than she is. They say when a heart breaks it doesnt break even.
Because she doesn't actually respect you or value you. She didn't while a married and she doesn't now. Frankly, the big thing you did right was flat out divorce her.
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