I have to say I'm not really clear on what your question is. You have divorced her right? Or have you just had her served with papers and not finalized?
Either way - based on the info you posted she's not remorseful for her actions so keep walking. As new as the marriage was you need to make her walk over broken glass proving her remorse before you even begin to think about taking her back. If you don't make sure to leave a scar she'll never forget and you take her back - you'll be here again.
Yes I am divorced now but went through with it when I had asked her to come with me on work trip as a way of re-igniting a spark and build on a fun experience, but she said no she was going to up to ? (tix he bought). She said it was her dad's b-day and all. I told her if you didnt come with me were over. It was the line in the sand that she needed to prioritize what was important. She also wound up extending the trip an extra day and she says her father wanted her to stay one more day.
She says she doesnt speak to this other guy anymore, but I have no proof of it? She was never this overly sexual person in the relationship and was rather a prude so it doesnt fit her personality to do this...
Im likely bargaining with myself trying to steer this situation to what I want. How can I fix this?
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"Itís not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
Don't put yourself back into it now that you've just got out of it.I know it may not seem like it at the moment,but time and distance will overcome the pain and eventually you'll get back into the dance.At least you should be really happy you don't have to deal with her family for the rest of your life.What a terrible crew! My view is that your life just took a turn for the better.Take care.
She says she wants me now and that she wants to work on us. She swears that she never had any physical contact with any other guy. Maybe Im just so naive, but I beleive her. Whether or not it was physical it still destroys the fact that another man had courted my ex-wife and she went along.
Im so hurt and I dont want to let go, even though legally im divorced. The collateral dmage is awful too with my family and friends b/c of all the people in the world I was the last person who deserved this.
Another amazing thing to add about the god awful nye weekend. That sunday night I saved an old womans life as she was choking and I perforomed the hemlich with her laying on her back. It was an out of body experience bc she would have died. No joke! She was blue and limp, and was in and out of conscioiusness. The whole restaurant exploeded with applause and I was on cloud 9, but only for a moment as my wife was away. I told her this story via text and she said some lame remark. I dont know about you but somewhere I was hoping to prove my worth and hvae her say she is lucky to have someone like me. Im not a big spiritual person, but I guess if she didnt leave I would have never been in that restaurant and saved this womans life.
I presume you both are quite young (mid 20's)? Was she your first love? Yeah it's incredibly hard to get over but your job now is to do just that. Not your fault, some people are not ready for marriage. And sometimes even when they are, this mess can happen. Move forward, work on yourself and stop pining for a girl who (with the aid of her family) shut you out of her life within months of your wedding. Hit the gym, see a counselor to deal with your grief, and spend as much time w friends as possible. Eventually you'll stop spending that time talking/thinking about your ex. Do your best to forget her...good luck. Posted via Mobile Device
She never filed for divorce she saw a lawyer and received council. Funny enough when I confronter her mother about it she was saying that she hoped she would get some advice and a better idea of what she was doing. Such BS i tell you. If you want advice seek a therapist, priset, rabbi, someone in the community you respect, not a divorce lawyer!
I was the one that filed. Just like everything else she never has the balls to confront or deal with issues, wants me to be the fall guy and handle everything.
That lawyer visit just demonstrates the mindset of her trip up to see this guy. She felt like she was free which is why i expect the worse.