05-11-2012, 12:00 PM
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: SE USA
| | Re: Exposing years later....Good idea/Bad idea?
Originally Posted by JustMe321
Short short version. Found out 16 months ago my WH had affairs years ago (10 years and 4 years ago). At the time I did a ton of research and found out all about his APs. Both were married when the affairs took place, but had since divorced. I did consider contacting their work, family, ex'es, etc. but then figured that it wouldn't do any good considering the affairs were not current and indeed happened so long ago. And since there was no current FOG to try and break anyone out of, I wasn't sure of the point.
After doing so much reading on these boards, I'm wondering now if I should have done something...or there is something I should do now. Or if exposing now would simply be a form of revenge. There is also the concern of re-opening doors that are long closed. The last thing I want are these women or their families back in our life.
To all the wise one here - any thoughts?
Exposure is a tool to break the affair or give the cheating spouse a dose of reality in hopes of stopping the affair.
After all this time I doubt that there could be any good outcome and like you said it would be YOU who would renew contact with OW/OWs and bring them back into your life. Why would you want to do that - revenge? Understandable if that is the reason but this could backfire on you - big time.