Pretty sure OM dumped her, don't feel as happy as I thought I would
Little backstory. In January (near my birthday no less) I get the ILYBINILWY speech from my STBXW. We separated that day, have been ever since. Divorce filed 4/12/12. Found out through her little brother that she's been sleeping with a guy at her work she liked for at least 1.5 months now, if not more. I've been faithful.
I confronted her about it because she's been dumping our 2 kids with people to spend time with him when it's her time to have them. I thought that was wrong. She didn't know I knew until then.
Last Sunday when she came to pick up our youngest daughter was the first time we saw each other since I found out and confronted her. She looked...sad. Depressed. Maybe ashamed. She could barely look at my face. I acted completely normal. At this point I'm fairly numb to everything she's done. I find out today from one of our mutual friends that she's been awfully quiet lately and not saying much to anybody at work. My gut tells me OM dumped her...he's in an open marriage, and I guess told her it would only be a fling. Don't know if she has genuine feelings for the guy or not. I'm not hoping for and don't want R.
I guess the point of this thread is to say that finding out she got dumped, and therefore some of her comeuppance, didn't make me happy like I thought it would. It made me sad instead. Not because I feel bad for her (which I don't), but sad that this is what she threw away our family for. I can't help but ask, was it worth it? I'm full 180 now, have been for a while, so there's no way I'll ask her that now.
I'm just surprised that I wasn't jumping up and down for joy like I thought I would be. I wasn't expecting this reaction. Anybody else have this same experience?