Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Southern california
Re: How concerned should I be
Hey Prime----we are here to help you---I know you don't like a lot of what your getting thrown at you---but it is the wisdom of many, talking to you
I wish, we could turn you inside out of yourself, and make you a fly on the wall of your home, looking at everything from an outside perspective---you would see this so much differently
I am answering you based solely on what you have written---so here goes---she had a lover, she had kids with him, she has married you, but has not STOPPED, heavy/major communication with him---so right here let's stop and ask you a question---Is this what a married woman does---keep up heavy communication with an X-Lover---you already know the answer don't you????
She is pregnant---you can only hope its yours,---- as to kids with him, your wife is the mother, the X-Lover is the father, he is gonna be in your life a long time, whether you like it or not
You are married only 6 mths---she is already running to him, and you are running to us, declaring you are already having problems, so your mge, which should be in the starry-eyed, wonderful stage, where you and your wife, see no other but each other, instead---you are already miserable, cuz she is in constant contact, with her X-Lover
Look at your future---can't see it---take the ave. mge---7 to 10 yrs in---things get boring same old, same old---spouses, want something more, something exciting---problems crop up---but in your mge---even long before that, I will tell you what will probably happen, you two will disagree/argue/fight---it happens in every mge that exists----and I will tell you right now---everytime you have a problem in your mge---she is gonna run to her X-Lover-----what happens when the 2 of them get together----who knows---but it will never be GOOD FOR YOUR MGE
Get out of this now---your mge., will give you nothing but misery----you may call me a pessimist---but based on your fact pattern, what I have written, is more than likely, what you are looking at for a future----is that really what you want for a future----It's your choice/decision, and no one else's---but it is your life, to live----I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide!!!!