Re: How concerned should I be
i have been married over 28 years and my wife hooked up with strangers on FB and the internet and while doing this was pursuing old friends on FB. I have most of the chats. One old HS friend did not remember her and she kept pursuing him. He finally said, I don't remember you but here is my phone number and please don't call me at such and such a time as I do not want to explain this to the misses (he was married) and oh by the way I will be in your town next week, call me and we can hook up. My wife's excuse when I exploded was, oh he is an old friend from HS and he was so funny and we were very close. Yet he kept saying over and over again, I don't remember you.
Your wife has a connection with the ex, children, sex, intimacy.
End it. Tell her she can talk about the children with him when you are there with her and that is the only time she can talk to him, when you are there. No texting. No other contact.
This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.”