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Old 05-14-2012, 02:43 AM   #31 (permalink)
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we work the same job same schedule one car. all days off were together. been lile that since September. not sure when she would have chance to cheat
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Old 05-14-2012, 05:51 AM   #32 (permalink)
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You should be very concerned. How old are you? She is someone way too young for marriage and 3 kids. She hasn't matured emotionally yet and I wouldn;t be surprised if she cheats on you..
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Old 05-14-2012, 04:05 PM   #33 (permalink)
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Cheating doesn't always mean physical contact. It appears to me she is emotionally cheating you out of a healthy marriage by contacting her x......
You wife at the very least is doing just that cheating...emotionally cheating and with that the next step and with in a very short time comes the physical aspects. Like when she goes over to her babies daddy for a visit, but you wont know this b/c what she will tell you is she's going shopping, while you stay home and watch the kids.

I could go on but since you are here and asking if you should be concerned and everyone has told you YES, then you need to start asking what you can do next. Then we can retype our replies or you can reread your thread. You can keep this marriage but there are steps that where mentioned here that you need to follow.
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Old 05-14-2012, 05:47 PM   #34 (permalink)
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i have been married over 28 years and my wife hooked up with strangers on FB and the internet and while doing this was pursuing old friends on FB. I have most of the chats. One old HS friend did not remember her and she kept pursuing him. He finally said, I don't remember you but here is my phone number and please don't call me at such and such a time as I do not want to explain this to the misses (he was married) and oh by the way I will be in your town next week, call me and we can hook up. My wife's excuse when I exploded was, oh he is an old friend from HS and he was so funny and we were very close. Yet he kept saying over and over again, I don't remember you.

Your wife has a connection with the ex, children, sex, intimacy.

End it. Tell her she can talk about the children with him when you are there with her and that is the only time she can talk to him, when you are there. No texting. No other contact.
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Old 05-14-2012, 08:24 PM   #35 (permalink)
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I appreciate all of the input from everybody. I laid out some guidelines and she has agreed. I contacted the ex about when and where we would meet to drop off the kids instead of her doing so. I really want to keep the marriage and while I do feel disrespected and cheated out of a GREAT relationship instead of an OK one, I think we can work past this. Any deviation feom the rules I laid out will not be tolerated. Im not a fool and I dont think I should give up just yet. I will keep you all posted and for sure will be back to let you know of my success in marriage. (keep your fingers crossed)
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I appreciate all of the input from everybody. I laid out some guidelines and she has agreed. I contacted the ex about when and where we would meet to drop off the kids instead of her doing so. I really want to keep the marriage and while I do feel disrespected and cheated out of a GREAT relationship instead of an OK one, I think we can work past this. Any deviation feom the rules I laid out will not be tolerated. Im not a fool and I dont think I should give up just yet. I will keep you all posted and for sure will be back to let you know of my success in marriage. (keep your fingers crossed)
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Once in awhile I've got to believe there is hope,so I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.Good luck.
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