Yes lots of stories that are nothing less than "stupid and incredulous" but what is even worse is that in lots of these cases, the betrayed spouse or partner has not yet left the cheater after months or years!
Yes lots of stories that are nothing less than "stupid and incredulous" but what is even worse is that in lots of these cases, the betrayed spouse or partner has not yet left the cheater after months or years!
Yes lots of stories that are nothing less than "stupid and incredulous" but what is even worse is that in lots of these cases, the betrayed spouse or partner has not yet left the cheater after months or years!
I'm sure this will be disputed but apparently most people stay together after infidelity. Just what I read.
My H's OW was filipino but working in Singapore.that's how they met. H was over there working for a Canadian company.
Well, my wife is a filipina, but OM is a filipino working as a contract worker in Canada. He was her HS sweetheart that she reconnected with on facebook.
Yes lots of stories that are nothing less than "stupid and incredulous" but what is even worse is that in lots of these cases, the betrayed spouse or partner has not yet left the cheater after months or years!
I hope you mean that as in the WS continues the behavior and the BS just turns a blind eye...and NOT that the BS forgave and the marriage got back on track....
Well, my wife is a filipina, but OM is a filipino working as a contract worker in Canada. He was her HS sweetheart that she reconnected with on facebook.
Whew! OM and his other OW were not filipino nor filipina... So, definitely not you. But it DOES seem odd that SOOO much is similar/ the same... then again, maybe it isn't so odd, ya know?
Yes lots of stories that are nothing less than "stupid and incredulous" but what is even worse is that in lots of these cases, the betrayed spouse or partner has not yet left the cheater after months or years!
Thanks for your concern. Obviously as grown up people, we can make our life choices ourselves based on our assessment of the situation.
My H had an affair with an older woman for 4yrs. I wanted all the details of where my H was for all this time, and she was very experienced in sex, especially BJ’s. So as I was reading her e-mails she mentions something about him fixing her sink. I was stunned because of his absence from, not only me, but our home during these 4yrs. When I said... ‘You fixed her sink?’ (in an accusatory voice) His response was... ‘ohh you know she is an older woman she can’t be on her knees too long’
My H had an affair with an older woman for 4yrs. I wanted all the details of where my H was for all this time, and she was very experienced in sex, especially BJ’s. So as I was reading her e-mails she mentions something about him fixing her sink. I was stunned because of his absence from, not only me, but our home during these 4yrs. When I said... ‘You fixed her sink?’ (in an accusatory voice) His response was... ‘ohh you know she is an older woman she can’t be on her knees too long’
Ummm...wow. ok so what about on her back? Ok, never mind....
This doesn't exactly fit, but once when I got back together with my ex, and he was going to come up and visit me, and I cleaned, and I shopped, and I fixed amazing food...
He called me and said he couldn't come because "his cat would be too nervous" with him gone.
LOL. He was "gone" from my life shortly thereafter, as in, I booted him to the curb!
Thanks for your concern. Obviously as grown up people, we can make our life choices ourselves based on our assessment of the situation.
I see lots of BAD choices.
As in a married partner staying with a cheater for months or years after discovering the affair, with the cheating partner not making any attempt to stop it.
Sure we make "life choices" based on our assessement of the situation but there's a lot more to it than that. You know what plays a big factor in the choices we make?
FEAR.
That's why many people decide to give the cheater another chance or stay with a cheater and try to break up an affair even if the cheater is not remorseful and has no desire to stop the affair. It's better than the alternative, which is the unknown.
As in a married partner staying with a cheater for months or years after discovering the affair, with the cheating partner not making any attempt to stop it.
Sure we make "life choices" based on our assessement of the situation but there's a lot more to it than that. You know what plays a big factor in the choices we make?
FEAR.
That's why many people decide to give the cheater another chance or stay with a cheater and try to break up an affair even if the cheater is not remorseful and has no desire to stop the affair. It's better than the alternative, which is the unknown.
(It isn't really better, it only seems that way)
It really depends on whether the affair has ended. If the WS is truly sorry and wants to work on it, and the BS is willing, then more power to 'em. It may not work, but that's not their fault. Also, it doesn't have to be fear of the unknown. Some people choose R with their eyes wide open and that's a good thing much of the time.
Before dday, I asked my wife if she was having an affair and she said no. After dday, I inquired why she didn't tell me about the affair when I asked earlier and she said... WAIT FOR IT...
Sure we make "life choices" based on our assessement of the situation but there's a lot more to it than that. You know what plays a big factor in the choices we make?
FEAR.
Back in December I hit my WW with the news of divorce. We agreed to split amicably.
The night after she broke down and ended up in the hospital. She takes her pills to the day. I took care of her since there was nobody else.
It took me over a month to decide that I'd give her another try.
Whatever affected my decision wasn't fear. Without useless boasting on anonymous forum, I know what fear is, I lived in strange places. We have combat veterans here who had their life at stake for years, and not all of them end up divorcing.
Maybe consider that there is uncomfortably more to it in real life than your little simple theory.
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