The day I busted my wife knowing the OM was in our car and they were driving to have sex in an Amish church parking lot (I did not know aoubt the sex part at this time). Talking to her on the phone she says, I am out shopping at Walmart on the Pike (she never went to that Walmart and it was 20 miles away from where the GPS showed her location). I said I love you, and she says, I love you too. I hung up. Within minutes I called her back and said, I want you to buy something, anything to prove to me that you are at Walmart. She said, are you accusing me of cheating? i am going home and not putting up with this. I said funny how you told me minutes ago how you love me and by the way, I know who is in the car with you.
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This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.”
I'll bet you if we all had a nickel for every "Nothing Happened" our WS's have decried, we could all retire comfortably on a tropical island!
LOL I know, right? I was told "nothing happened" half a dozen times before I confronted her with the photos OM had posted to his blog of them, in his words, "Making out on their date" a week before I found out!
Oh man...
The big stupid: “When OM#1 fled the country to escape prosecution, I started going to lunch with his best friend to try and sort out why he disappeared. One thing led to another and we ended up back at his place.... I couldn’t just leave and he was persistent, so I let him have sex with me.” .... and this gave her nightmares from guilt... so, they got together talked about it and tried it again to see if those nightmares would stop. They didn’t... OM#1 returned shortly after, they started dating again and those two didn’t tell him either. What wonderful people.
Another memorable: “I know what you are going through. I found out OM#1 was cheating on me. So I know what it feels like.” (Yes, the same one she cheated on with his best friend)..
“Its not really any different than you playing computer games all the time.” Yes... I could have been watching tv alone instead while she was out dating. This is tied in closely with the “You want me to be happy don’t you? I need to be social and go out. Someone has to watch the kids and you could play your games after they go to bed.”
And one more: “I hid these friends from you because you are racist.”
And my favorite that set me off snooping around: “I need my space from you to decide if I can tolerate your behavior. I expect you to be gone tomorrow. You can come home after work, cook and eat together as a family, but you have to leave after the kids are asleep.”
"Her boyfriend wasn't giving her the compliments. Someone had to"
Uhhh yea... YOU didn't have to tell her she was beautiful and sexy. You are MY husband. I should be getting those compliments from you.... and only me getting them from you!
"I went out to have drinks with OM to tell him why I couldn't go out to have drinks with him anymore."
This was before I knew about the affair, but after I confronted her and was gaslighted. I told her that I wasn't comfortable with her going out to hang out with him, I caught her sneaking out and this is the excuse that she gave me.
"Her boyfriend wasn't giving her the compliments. Someone had to"
Uhhh yea... YOU didn't have to tell her she was beautiful and sexy. You are MY husband. I should be getting those compliments from you.... and only me getting them from you!
I hear you.....my H would start every email to his OW with "Hi beautiful"....when was the last time he said those words to me...at least 10 years previous. That hurt because it made me remember how complimentary he used to be previously and instead is directing that to someone that to me does not deserve it at all.
To me how can someone be beautiful when they are knowingly and willing flirting/emailing with a married man?? That makes them a cold cruel ugly person in my eyes.
The other funny part, after I caught her doing this, I sent a text to OM as well telling him to stay away from my family. He responded by saying "Normally I'm a bury the hatchet kind of guy, but you two have dragged me through so much drama over the past two months, I am writing off you and your family completely. It's sad too, I've always thought that you were a pretty cool guy".
I know that when I meet someone that I think is pretty cool, the first thought through my head is "You're pretty cool, I think I want to mess around with your wife because I like you so much."
I hear you.....my H would start every email to his OW with "Hi beautiful"....when was the last time he said those words to me...at least 10 years previous. That hurt because it made me remember how complimentary he used to be previously and instead is directing that to someone that to me does not deserve it at all.
To me how can someone be beautiful when they are knowingly and willing flirting/emailing with a married man?? That makes them a cold cruel ugly person in my eyes.
Yes, and that she knew all the things going thru MY head, even worse (she acted like she was my friend). She told him that she and I didn't talk to each other. I knew she had designs on him. I knew it years ago...but ignored it because my husband was always the "flirting = cheating" and "I will never cheat" type. He still maintains that, tho SHE had designs on him... he never would have succumbed. Uhhhh...calling her "sexy" isn't succumbing?? Especially when you couldn't remember the last time you said it to me? But, tho he won't recognize his EA for what it was, because it never developed to the point that mine did, I guess... I am doing my best to move forward. It's tough when you don't know what to do because your spouse is dealing with bad depression, due to bipolar disorder (and they are not sure what type), and they keep throwing meds at him, which aren't working right. So, I am muddling thru it all.
The other funny part, after I caught her doing this, I sent a text to OM as well telling him to stay away from my family. He responded by saying "Normally I'm a bury the hatchet kind of guy, but you two have dragged me through so much drama over the past two months, I am writing off you and your family completely. It's sad too, I've always thought that you were a pretty cool guy".
I know that when I meet someone that I think is pretty cool, the first thought through my head is "You're pretty cool, I think I want to mess around with your wife because I like you so much."
"Well, how about that! I had you pegged for an @$$hole... turns out I was right!" I SOOO would say that to someone. Calling them an @$$HOLE, not the "I like you, I wanna fool around with your spouse".
"Well, how about that! I had you pegged for an @$$hole... turns out I was right!" I SOOO would say that to someone. Calling them an @$$HOLE, not the "I like you, I wanna fool around with your spouse".
With the extremely low trust and caring that I have for people right now, I wouldn't hesitate to do the same thing anymore.
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