Me-"That doesn't matter, we should calmly discuss how we are going to proceed with a divorce. I am willing to have an amicable split to spare the children more grief than they will already experience from all of this."
Tears welled up in her eyes as she initially tried to shift blame. "I know having an affair was wrong BUT..." and she yelled that I was inattentive for years and how she tried to make things works, blah blah blah...."AND YOU PROMISED YOU'D STOP SNOOPING!"
My face made a wrinkled incredulous look as I said in a sarcastic tone, "Do you really want to go there?"
When I asked if I could read his texts anytime I want, after seeing the initial texts and telling him how I felt, he said no problem. I said, ok, I want to see now, and i had the phone in my hand. He said "No, not right now" and took the phone. I asked if he had something to hide or if this was paybacks for my EA. He said "No, I just don't want you to right now". But he relented and let me read. Those were the text I saw where he called her "sexy" and "beautiful"...AFTER we agreed to work things out! I finished reading, took the phone back in to him. He asked "Happy now?"... and I said no. Stupid me, I let him continue talking for a couple days, until he finally admitted that he DID feel more, but now that he was getting those needs met by me, he doesn't feel that way about her.... That was when the contact ended. Oh and his reasoning for not letting me read in the first place? "I didn't think you would care" and "You read too much into it." HOW THE F*** do you read too much into SH** like that???
When I didn't believe my husband hadn't actually slept with anyone after spending over $3000 on these 'models' and escort agencies, he decided on the spur of the moment that since I didn't believe him anyways he might as well go for it. So he picked up a hooker on his way home from a (lesbian) bar he had been at, and got a blow job for $60 that he paid for in COINS since that's all he had in his apartment.
I only mention the lesbian bar because, in his mind, he wouldn't run into any 'temptation' there.
My wife of 10 years explaining why her EA with a co-worker is actually my fault:
"You KNEW that he's my type. You KNEW that's exactly what I want in a man! You should have EXPECTED this to happen. He's [fill in long detailed description here of why he's physically and mentally exactly what she wants and sees as ideal, totally unlike me], which you KNEW I'd be attracted to. What did you expect me to do?!?"
Keep in mind I'd never met this guy or laid eyes on him, but somehow to her mind I was supposed to have known his attractiveness would force her to do what she did, thus it was all my fault.
The X had over 2500 text messages, she didn't have a unlimited plan so she was hit w/ a huge bill. When I asked she said "I'm doing everything I can to save you the extra $350 they want to charge YOU." LMAO, she wouldn't ever return my texts.