Ok this is tough one. I know some of it is me and triggers. Last night we were home and one of our adult kids is home. I was trying to be playful with my wife. I sent her a text that was tasteful about what I would like to do with her in the bedroom. I then received a reply that there was a season finally on a show. My reply was to record it. I was asked if I was crabby. I went to bed she came to bed an hour later, nothing happened.
I woke up this morning thinking about the provocative pictures and texts my wife sent to that POS and all I get is there is a season finally. I was boiling over. I was told it was awkward with the kid in the house but then I pointed out all the risks she took to text and send pictures to this guy when the kids were home or I was there.
We are in R but the sex issues are the hardest for me to deal with. I am not trying to be sexist but I think these things are harder for a man to deal with then a woman. Any similar issues out there, how did you deal with them.
I think that a healthy sex life is an essential part of R. If she's not willing, then you have a problem. And you have a DVR, who cares about a season finale?
Ok this is tough one. I know some of it is me and triggers. Last night we were home and one of our adult kids is home. I was trying to be playful with my wife. I sent her a text that was tasteful about what I would like to do with her in the bedroom. I then received a reply that there was a season finally on a show. My reply was to record it. I was asked if I was crabby. I went to bed she came to bed an hour later, nothing happened.
I woke up this morning thinking about the provocative pictures and texts my wife sent to that POS and all I get is there is a season finally. I was boiling over. I was told it was awkward with the kid in the house but then I pointed out all the risks she took to text and send pictures to this guy when the kids were home or I was there.
We are in R but the sex issues are the hardest for me to deal with. I am not trying to be sexist but I think these things are harder for a man to deal with then a woman. Any similar issues out there, how did you deal with them.
I feel your pain brother. My own fWW's messages to her OM were everything I ever wished that I had gotten from her. It's part of the fantasy. They were willing to do anything and everything for their AP, usually things they denied their own spouse. It's disgusting and one of the things to recover from in R. That's one of my triggers too.
Here's a related thread by morituri that you posted in.
We spent the morning in an email argument. nothing resolved..... I remember it took two years before she would even get undressed in front of me and it took two seconds her her to send pictures to the POSM. That is something she has never done for me.
He also sent her video of him jacking off. She will not even talk about the subject with me let alone anything else.
I woke up this morning thinking about the provocative pictures and texts my wife sent to that POS and all I get is there is a season finally. I was boiling over. I was told it was awkward with the kid in the house but then I pointed out all the risks she took to text and send pictures to this guy when the kids were home or I was there.
A willing person looks for possibilities, an unwilling is seeking excuses.
Now, you can deal with that or not deal with that, but don't lie to yourself.
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but that's the that. And you knew it before you ever posted the comment. The question is, where do you go now? Counseling? Divorce? These are things you should discuss with your wife.
I agree with IMAGA. She simply does not wish to be intimate with you. She is willing to send pictures and make time for her OM but not you. The message she is sending you is quite clear.
why are you even still there now ?? mine came to me to confess, hoping I would be reasonable. I was, I walked. Didn't want to know any details. Just straight SOUTH POLE COLDDDDDDDDDDDDD. They didn' last, and she know what she lost.
Although this might be true, I think more accurately, she wanted to watch this program more than she wanted to have sex with him. Mahike, are you guys having sex at all these days? There have been times when I wanted to watch a game or do something else at a certain moment. But still desired my wife in general. Mahike, my opinion (if you guys are having sex in general) is to let this one incident go. If you aren't getting intimate feelings from her at all, well, then, yeah.
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why are you even still there now ?? mine came to me to confess, hoping I would be reasonable. I was, I walked. Didn't want to know any details. Just straight SOUTH POLE COLDDDDDDDDDDDDD. They didn' last, and she know what she lost.
I feel this, brother. I already know that if I caught my wife reconnecting with the OM that the south pole cold is exactly what would happen to me. I feel this with 100% certainty. I told her this too, and it scared the crap out of her.
And look, I think I just popped my multi-quote cherry! Took me a whole year!
You have been spinning your wheels with this psycho woman for months. I remember well that she basically acted like a porn **** for the OM, and you get crumbs off the table. This was months ago and nothing has changed.
How much longer are you going to allow this broken woman to humiliate you?
Let me just say as a woman/wife, maybe that night she just wasn't feeling it? I mean if she is doing this to you every night...okay that is a problem. But one night? She could have had tummy trouble..been tired...really just wanted to watch a show and go to bed.....anything. If it were me, I would try to make it up to my man at least by the next day tho. And remember the crap w/the OM was not real life. It was all happy fantasy, no problems, no bills, no kids....this fog can make people act in ways that are not real and true.
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Another fight and more triggers 
