Re: New member seeking advice on an emotional affair
Take your time.
Gather the intel and evidence and create a bulletproof case that she cannot explain away. It may take you weeks to do this. Then when you have solid evidence, print it all out and slam it down on the table in front of her and ask her to explain herself. Hell, do it in front of her parents.
Don't confront her immediately if you find something. Get back to the forum and discuss the next step
Please heed this advice. If you read the worst in black and white, you will be powerfully motivated to throw it in her face. This teaches a cheater to hide it better.
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Re: New member seeking advice on an emotional affair
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Originally Posted by bandit.45
Take your time.
Gather the intel and evidence and create a bulletproof case that she cannot explain away. It may take you weeks to do this. Then when you have solid evidence, print it all out and slam it down on the table in front of her and ask her to explain herself. Hell, do it in front of her parents.
She was really concerned about everyone including at work and her Parents finding out about everything that had happened.
I'm sick of being played 2nd string to this other guy. Thanks for the motivation everyone!
Re: New member seeking advice on an emotional affair
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Originally Posted by lamaga
Oldwolf, I am not a fox in the henhouse. I am an old woman who has seen it all, and I think that it is comforting for people to rely on technology instead of dealing openly with their own relationship problems. If you have a problem with my posts, please contact the moderators. If they have a problem with my posts, I'm sure they will either contact me or ban me, but as far as I know, this is a forum that welcomes varying opinions.
I don't know why you seem to assume that "dealing openly with their own relationship problems" and using a key logger to understand the objective reality of the situation are mutually exclusive things. They are not.
She has already engaged in and continues to engage in highly suspect behavior. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with verifying that you are not being punked while you are honestly trying to save a relationship. In fact, if he wasn't verifying this, I would say that he wasn't completely devoted to the relationship because it is IMPOSSIBLE to save a marriage consisting of three people.
Your advice is bad. And your scolding of other posters who know first hand what they are talking about is annoying.
Re: New member seeking advice on an emotional affair
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Originally Posted by OldWolf57
the woman is gone dude. she was in the wrong, but you paying. they playing the long game man. was right. once she takes her payments over, you are gone.
You get an A+ on a perfect analysis of the situation.
I don't know why you seem to assume that "dealing openly with their own relationship problems" and using a key logger to understand the objective reality of the situation are mutually exclusive things. They are not.
She has already engaged in and continues to engage in highly suspect behavior. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with verifying that you are not being punked while you are honestly trying to save a relationship. In fact, if he wasn't verifying this, I would say that he wasn't completely devoted to the relationship because it is IMPOSSIBLE to save a marriage consisting of three people.
Your advice is bad. And your scolding of other posters who know first hand what they are talking about is annoying.
I said something similar in my long post on the latest keylogger / reconciliation thread. I won't repeat that here, except to say again that she is profoundly naïve about how cheaters conduct their affairs.
Hint: they want all the benefits of marriage and all the fun of an affair. They lie to protect the affair to the bitter end. Some, like my husband, regret their shameful cake-eating.
AFTER they got caught and the gig was up. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: New member seeking advice on an emotional affair
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Originally Posted by nomoregames
Will do, I'm still open to any other opinions in the meantime on this matter.
Ok, NMG, as gently as I know how. It doesn’t really matter what's happening between the two of you, the meetings, the "attach to each other emotionally once again and actually talk and share our feelings." (we know the sex ain't happening) The only important point is that she doesn't want to be with you. You’re out, Dawg. And none of this has anything to do with the FedEx boy. He is merely someone to boost her ego while she lines you up for the garbage shoot. She’s been thinking about getting rid of you for a while. She’s not confused at all about what she wants in a relationship and you ain't it. Want to know why she can't talk to you before she pulls your eject lever. Because women don’t do that. She's getting herself in position to jettison you quietly and without much fanfare. My guess is she's hoping you'll just pull up stakes and move on.
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