I'm encouraging my kids to never marry(well, I might keep my mouth shut with the girls, anyway).
Seriously, who in his or her right mind would marry these days. You are completely ****ed if your spouse cheats and decides to just dump your ass.
It is a sick way to live, this marriage deal, IMO.
Then you are/were either Alpha or Sigma, depending on what set of nomenclature you're using. Notice I said "are/were." I went through a 12 year period of being a porker and that attention went away completely. I became invisible to women when I got outside the "golden ratio" and the bespectacled, fat face and white hair didn't help. Once I dropped fat and rebuilt muscle and went back to wearing contacts, the attention resumed. If I were to start up playing music again, my wife probably would go into hyperdrive.
On this pro-marriage site, the users are having trouble to give a good reason, for a young male, hell, a male at any age, to marry, because he is in effect, playing Russian Roulette with his heart and property?
This website attracts a lot of the jaded, scorned, and cynical, people who are hurting, or have been hurt, by the scars of bad marriages and bad choices. It isn't a remotely unbiased look at marriage.
Having said that, look around. There are a lot of people here, myself included, who absolutely love being married, or in long term relationships.
i think its a one time deal. i dont think i would ever marry anyone again. im only seperated, but divorce can be a hurtful proccess for you and your spouse as well as your kids
I agree with the OP personally but would not tell it to my children. They will make their own decisions. Marriage 2.0 is a sham institution. It is no different legally than an LLC or business partnership. One partner may bust their butt and build the success of the business(working husband or wife) while the other partner is more passive (non-working homemaking spouse). In the name of love the working spouse keeps building the family coffers while the non-working spouse is having an affair. No fault states don't care why you are in court and only want to see the LLC dissolved equitably. So as the working spouse, your hard work is carved up and divided while your non-working, cheating partner gets paid for their bad behavior. The working spouse is victimized twice, once by their spouse, and again by the legal system. Yes, not worth getting married in this environment when as a monied spouse you are just an ATM for your former spouse to cash in on until some guy/gal in a black robe says stop. My .02$
Whether we are for or against marriage as it exists today, the fact remains that the marriage rates are, and have been, dropping for quite some time and more and more people are choosing to simply live together, especially by those who were once married for decades and are now divorced. People in my age group (over 50) and over are some of the contributors to this trend. For them, another divorce is simply too much, financially speaking, to deal with and recover from.
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