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Never, ever Marry(just my opinion)

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#1 ·
I'm encouraging my kids to never marry(well, I might keep my mouth shut with the girls, anyway).
Seriously, who in his or her right mind would marry these days. You are completely ****ed if your spouse cheats and decides to just dump your ass.
It is a sick way to live, this marriage deal, IMO.
 
#4 ·
Marriage is the greatest gift a man can give to a woman. In return he gets to have offspring, which is the greatest gift she makes to him (given the investments). It's kind of a genetic deal.
If she gives him the kids and does not get married (committed to), she is screwed. If he gives her the marriage, but does not get offspring (sex), he's screwed.
Looks clear to me and I believe it won't change any time soon.
 
#93 ·
Let's dispute your points one by one.

1- A man "gets" to have offspring even if he isn't married.

2- If she "gives him kids" (whatever that means), and they're not married, in most if not all states/countries, he's still responsible to support his children. Child support is payable whether or not there is marriage.

3- If he "gives her marriage" but doesn't have kids, he isn't necessarily "screwed", because having kids is an option. Many people are choosing not to have children nowadays and again that decision is independent of marriage.

Marriage is a financial contract, nothing more. It does not guarantee loyalty, honesty, or lack of deception. There is no greater chance that a married couple will be any more successful than a nonmarried couple.

Most marriages fail nowadays.

Both parties are usually in worse shape after a divorce, the only winners are the attorneys.

Marriage is an archiaic, over rated, outdated concept that serves no real purpose.

Generally speaking.
 
#10 ·
I do not hate you, muttgirl. Nor do I hate anyone else here(well, unless my XW is posting here).
It is just my opinion. Marriage is a bad deal.

And, bitterness gets a bad name, as does "judgemental".
There is nothing wrong or unpleasant about being bitter as regards one's XW. It feels good to hate her. She is an evil pig. Same with being judgemental. I could not live happily without judgement. My life would be chaotic if I used no judgement. I might have hired Ted Bundy to babysit if I had no judgement.
 
#13 ·
"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married. And by then it was too late." -Max Kauffmann :rofl:

"The man who says his wife can't take a joke, forgets that she took him." -Oscar Wilde

“Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means.”
-Henny Youngman

:lol::lol::lol:
 
#18 · (Edited)
I'd like to know this too, if you are now against marriage because of your experience, why would it be different for your sons, as opposed to your daughters? I really think you should let them make their own minds up anyway.

I've been burned by my current marriage and my unfaithful and abusive husband. I'm not so angry about it however, that I would never consider getting married again. It may take me a lot longer to get to that point, but I'm not going to write it off.

Jen
 
#22 ·
That's what my boyfriend said, then he fell for me. I was feeling the same way, and fell for him. We realized that we were just scre*ed on that point. Even if you are not married, sometimes you find yourself in the middle of a relationship, that is like marriage. It seems to be unavoidable, even for the careful who think they are hanging out with a safe, reliable, trustworthy friend. :-o
 
#25 ·
My first husband is a serial cheater. I left after a 2 year relationship(1.5 year marriage).

I never intended to remarry. I worked full time during the day, went to college 2-3 nights a week. However, I met a real man who respects me in every way possible. He's the love of my life and will do anything for me. We adore each other, we are each others best friends! I can't imagine life without him. He is my everything. After 13 years(12 married years), we are still in the honeymoon stage. We both work very hard meeting each others needs. A true family man.

Even after breaking my neck, which was a life changing event, my husband stands by my side 1,000%. I never thought I'd meet a man that I could be so compatible with. My husband has no expectations of me and nor do I of him. We are fabulous at communicating and hold nothing back. We talk everything through and compromise well. Plus, he's the best looking man on this planet!
 
#30 ·
The following is from Barely Half of U.S. Adults Are Married – A Record Low

Previous marriage experience plays a big role in whether people want to get married (again) or not. A majority of adults who have never been married say that they want to get married (61%), compared with only 26% of adults who have ever been married but are currently unmarried.
 
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