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Old 05-16-2012, 11:44 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm encouraging my kids to never marry(well, I might keep my mouth shut with the girls, anyway).
Seriously, who in his or her right mind would marry these days. You are completely ****ed if your spouse cheats and decides to just dump your ass.
It is a sick way to live, this marriage deal, IMO.
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Old 05-16-2012, 11:45 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I really find this difficult to argue with.
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Old 05-16-2012, 11:47 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Make sure to sign a pre-nup, don't make them the center of your life and you'll be fine.
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Old 05-16-2012, 11:51 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Marriage is the greatest gift a man can give to a woman. In return he gets to have offspring, which is the greatest gift she makes to him (given the investments). It's kind of a genetic deal.
If she gives him the kids and does not get married (committed to), she is screwed. If he gives her the marriage, but does not get offspring (sex), he's screwed.
Looks clear to me and I believe it won't change any time soon.
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Old 05-17-2012, 12:02 AM   #5 (permalink)
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My career as a married man is over. I even cringe at the thought of living with a woman again.
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Marriage is a very personal deal. It's not for everyone and there's luck and hard work to make it work.

I wish I'd never got married. But that's just me.
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Old 05-17-2012, 12:24 AM   #7 (permalink)
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My marriages absolutely sucked. What was the common denominator-Oh, that's right. Never mind.
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Old 05-17-2012, 12:35 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Personally, I loved being married. Obviously, wasn't too fond of the way it came crashing down. But the majority of it was worth the risk to me.

I may be in the minority, but I see myself married again in the future...but with an entirely different outlook from the get go.
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Old 05-17-2012, 12:38 AM   #9 (permalink)
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There is a lot of bitterness. Why did you get married? Kids? They can happen without marriage. Love? If you said "I do" before the daydream fantasy part of the deal was over, you didn't know enough about each other. Were they cheating before and this time was the final straw? They don't change. Marriage is about many different issues and you and the spouse working out an operating system on many levels. So what is eating at you? Hating us all is not a good sollution. Get to the real problem so you can fix it.
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Old 05-17-2012, 12:58 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I do not hate you, muttgirl. Nor do I hate anyone else here(well, unless my XW is posting here).
It is just my opinion. Marriage is a bad deal.

And, bitterness gets a bad name, as does "judgemental".
There is nothing wrong or unpleasant about being bitter as regards one's XW. It feels good to hate her. She is an evil pig. Same with being judgemental. I could not live happily without judgement. My life would be chaotic if I used no judgement. I might have hired Ted Bundy to babysit if I had no judgement.
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I do not hate you, muttgirl. Nor do I hate anyone else here(well, unless my XW is posting here).
It is just my opinion. Marriage is a bad deal.

And, bitterness gets a bad name, as does "judgemental".
There is nothing wrong or unpleasant about being bitter as regards one's XW. It feels good to hate her. She is an evil pig. Same with being judgemental. I could not live happily without judgement. My life would be chaotic if I used no judgement. I might have hired Ted Bundy to babysit if I had no judgement.
It is hard to not agree.

I find myself telling others that marriage is a waste of time.
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I believe marriage as an instatution. It is a MENTAL institution.
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Old 05-17-2012, 03:00 AM   #13 (permalink)
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I'm encouraging my kids to never marry(well, I might keep my mouth shut with the girls, anyway).
Seriously, who in his or her right mind would marry these days. You are completely ****ed if your spouse cheats and decides to just dump your ass.
It is a sick way to live, this marriage deal, IMO.
I don't get it. Why you might keep your mouth shut with your girls?
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Old 05-17-2012, 03:41 AM   #15 (permalink)
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make a simple dinner with your husband and try to talk him in a calm, respectful manner about the things that you want to tell him.
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