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Old 05-17-2012, 02:58 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I know cheating sucks all together, but every now and then someone tells their story and others say that THAT scenario isn't all that bad. So with that in mind I ask you guys and girls, what's your top five scenarios that would make infidelity even worse?

Mine are:

1.Sex with a stripper (average night at a club or at a bachelor party) and that includes him performing things on her and the other way around.

2.Sex with a prostitute, similar to #1.

3.Sex with any of my sisters or close friends (mine or his).

4.Sex with any kind of house worker.

5.Sex with someone else at our own place.
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I know you mean well but to me it feels like picking on the scars.
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I know you mean well but to me it feels like picking on the scars.
Wow, I had not thought of that. You're right. It's just that I was thinking about it all day. Well if nobody answers I'll just delete it.
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Old 05-17-2012, 06:32 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Cheating of any sort is awful. My ex h would sleep with anyone who was willing. It didn't matter who it was. I know of 5 women he slept with during our marriage, I'm sure there were many more.

I'd call his phone at 2am and there would be women answering and I heard him in the background. He'd come home at 6am and sleep the day away while I went to work paying all our bills. This happened every weekend.

I didn't stay long. I sure wasn't giving him any due to his cheating. Of course he would lie and tell me that I was setting him to cheat.

I know I'm not a guy, but my ex is a serial cheater. Even to this day on his current wife. He told my daughter of 3 women when she was 15. He told her these women threw themselves at him and it wasn't his fault. I was furious he'd even discuss this with a child!

People like this make me believe the statement "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
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They are all equal in my eyes. It is betrayal. But what about this one... and it happens! The husband/wife is having an affair with your Father/Mother, now that is the shocker! The worse though... Your husband/wife caught having sex with your son/daughter which is their stepchild. This happens, too!!!
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Ben thats just freaken sick...LOL LOL LOL
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There was a poster here awhile back who cheated on his wife with her father.
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A family friend lost her virginity to one guy, she's 22 from a religious family, he was broke and jobless, they got engaged, he cheated on her without her knowledge, she got tested for STD, positive for HIV and she got knocked up by him on her first time, baby is also HIV+. She tried to reconcile with him but he continued on cheating.

Positive thing is her family has accepted it and are completely there for her and the baby.

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If you dig deep enough, you'll find stories with all the makings of a Greek tragedy.
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There was a poster here awhile back who cheated on his wife with her father.
Let me get this straight... so to speak!

Are you stating that a wife's husband cheated on her... with the wife's father. The husband had an affair with his father-in-law?

If this is true... now that is.....

Second round... Should I ask what happened with the marriage?
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A family friend lost her virginity to one guy, she's 22 from a religious family, he was broke and jobless, they got engaged, he cheated on her without her knowledge, she got tested for STD, positive for HIV and she got knocked up by him on her first time, baby is also HIV+. She tried to reconcile with him but he continued on cheating.

Positive thing is her family has accepted it and are completely there for her and the baby.
This bleeds over into other areas besides betrayal. It is a 'worse case scenario' to say the least. Tragedy!
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My husband had a ONS with a stripper/prostitute and I found that a lot of people assume that is not as bad as having an affair and that all men would do that..no big deal, which in turn made me feel like I was making a big deal..

In the end, what matters is what I think of the situation..and it is not acceptable.
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The worst one I ever heard of was where the cheating husband hooked up in a chatroom with a single woman.

He told her a story about how he was a widower, his wife and kids were killed by a drunk driver in another state, and had been grieving and was only slowly getting back into dating.

He told this sob story and eventually got the single woman into bed. She got suspicious when she asked to see his place, and he kept putting her off. Eventually she hired a PI and found out the truth - still married, with the kid's toys on his lawn.

That was truly despicable in so many ways.
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Let me get this straight...

Are you stating that a wife's husband cheated on her... with the wife's father. The husband had an affair with his father-in-law?

If this is true... now that is.....
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Yes, that is what was stated. The poster claimed to be torn because he was in love with the W's dad. Think the W showed up to tell her story too.

It was someone trolling, there were certain emotional inconsistancies in the story. I can believe extremely far fetched tales but if they defy certain 'laws' of logic regarding human emotional states, or show inconsistancies then the bullsh*t meter starts humming. Trolls and story tellers are pretty easy to pick up on, especially when your bullsh*t radar is so finely tuned from being gaslighted for years. lol.
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Let me get this straight... so to speak!

Are you stating that a wife's husband cheated on her... with the wife's father. The husband had an affair with his father-in-law?

If this is true... now that is.....

Second round... Should I ask what happened with the marriage?
Yes, that was the post exactly.

I`m unsure what happened as they didn`t stick around long.

Could have been a troll but trolls usually hang around to keep stirring the **** as long as they can.
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