Finally got the answer I wanted....

beachbabe · 05-18-2012, 05:23 PM

Well, first I want to thank everyone in my last thread that didn't mince words and got me out of my funk.

I took very drastic measures and my husband told me that there was someone else. I lost it and jumped out of his huge Kenwork truck, high heels and all,oh and while still moving cause he wouldn't stop and let me out, but I didn't break a hip so there's the silver lining....(I wanted him to be honest with me for 2 months thus the crazy exit!!!)

I finally got the truth out of him by telling him I got a lawyer to release his text messages by court order and that the copy of everything he said was on there!!....Yep..pretty crazy... (I saw a very incriminating text on his phone about him 'wanting a no strings attached affair') I tried everything from searching his phone and computer, but to no avail!
He even tried to convince me that someone hacked his phone, and my heart kinda bought it but my head haunted me relentlessly! (Oh the power of a womams intuition!!!)

I got desperate so, thus the crazy story...He's texted me only 4 times since today...Please tell me what rules to follow now? I know for a fact that the day he moved but he has not seen her. *Oh the gift of spy wear* but where do I go from here? We have one child together and 2 of mine from a previous marriage. The last month has been good, other than the lie which was slowly killing me.
Thanks everyone...I need help...

Almostrecovered · 05-18-2012, 05:28 PM

What do you want or do you even know yet?

Hope1964 · 05-18-2012, 05:34 PM

He'd be kicked the hell out. Maybe in a month or two I would want to talk to him again.

beachbabe · 05-18-2012, 05:48 PM

To be honest I feel some sense of relief..other than that, I'm very numb....Why does affairs hurt so darn bad??

Almostrecovered · 05-18-2012, 05:50 PM

How bad was the truth? How long did it last?

beachbabe · 05-18-2012, 06:14 PM

Apparently they didnt sleep together but I don't know...he wants to come 'home' tonight and FINALLY tell me everything....I'm worried about what he's will tell me cause I'm supposed to already know because the texts that I received....Oh the stupid lies!!!

OhGeesh · 05-18-2012, 06:42 PM

Good luck the recovery!! I always love the "he'd be kicked out" post.......Idk in my house I pay 90% of the bills no one is li ling me out if I don't choose to go no matter what I did !!
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Rainey Okay · 05-18-2012, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by beachbabe

To be honest I feel some sense of relief..other than that, I'm very numb....Why does affairs hurt so darn bad??

For me, affairs hurt because you have been lied to by the person you should trust the most. Once your reality shifts like that you are never the same. The numbness for me was replaced by pain and sadness.
You will need to talk to him eventually, might as well be sooner than later.
Peace

tacoma · 05-18-2012, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by beachbabe

Apparently they didnt sleep together but I don't know...he wants to come 'home' tonight and FINALLY tell me everything....I'm worried about what he's will tell me cause I'm supposed to already know because the texts that I received....Oh the stupid lies!!!

This is an exercise in futility.

He`s gonna lie, his attitude thus far is the exact attitude of a seasoned player.

Just for fun though when he tells you he didn`t sleep with her tell him the texts show otherwise.

See what happens.

beachbabe · 05-18-2012, 08:23 PM

Just an update....my husband just came by and told me the truth for a change....Get this...he had been sexting his ex girlfriend who was his first and hers apparently....she messaged him on FACEBOOK, that is how it started! DON'T EVEN GO THERE WITH THAT!!!
I kicked him out...seriously the crying got to me...where the hell was he when I was crying for the last 2 months!
He is sick too....wow pay back is a b**ch!
I guess he sent pictures of his manhood....yuck!
I sound bitter...I kinda am!

tacoma · 05-18-2012, 09:23 PM

It`s more likely he just told you "some" of the truth hoping it`d be enough to appease you because he knew he was busted.

Rule of thumb is whatever "truth" they tell you multiply by ten and you`re closer to the "real" truth.

I`m betting he admitted to the sexting and pic texting because he thought you already knew that stuff from your earlier bluff.

He`s only telling you what he thinks you already know.

Shaggy · 05-18-2012, 09:47 PM

I'm trying to picture you bailing from the truck in heels. That's certainly has style, if not grace! Kudos to you.

As for him, he sounds like you could do much much better than him.

EleGirl · 05-18-2012, 10:12 PM

So was that a "dump truck"?

beachbabe · 05-18-2012, 11:45 PM

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So was that a "dump truck"?

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beachbabe · 05-18-2012, 11:47 PM

Yes very similar to that...the cab is 5 ft off the ground! I was worried people seen me because it was in a grocery store roadway...now I kinda wish some one did...lol It is amazing what adrenaline does!!!
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