Oh God...that's like DH's fOW saying "you're gonna throw away 4 years of friendship over this??" Uhhh yes. He admitted to having feelings developing for you. HELL YES we're ending the friendship! Dumb@$$. Seriously, she even said, when I sent her a text from MY phone, that she "want[ed] to hear it from him, not [me] texting from his phone"... LMAO! The thought hadn't occurred to me, but she obviously had been down this road before....
Seriously? What planet do these mofo's live on?
Maybe the wives of TAM need to form a gang, to straighten these slags out. "Who you gonna call? SL*TBUSTERS!!"
Again, all this focus on the OW, she didn't do this to your marriage - ONS, EA, PA, whichever - your husband did it. Whether the OW knew your H was married or not is irrelevant - HE did this to your marriage. I also didn't make a sweeping statement that all A's resulted in love, I clearly stated this was not true. However, to think all A's are incapable of developing love - DENIAL!
And I still maintain it doesn't matter what the OW thought her place was, you can likely thank your husband for his part in that too. None of this is about what the OW did .. fog ... or anything else, its about what your H did, bottom line. And many times the way an OW acted and felt is a direct result to what YOUR H did and said to her. You stay, you deal. No point questioning anything about the OW - she isn't part of your M. Posted via Mobile Device
I am all for divorcing WSs for the reasons non stated.
But, I still feel that, based on the writng I have seen from them,OMs and OWs ae dumber than rocks and should be sterilized for the greater good.
There is one poor imbecilic woman on that Loveshack, Kismet Girl, who expects folks to beleive she has started her medical residency. It is hilarious,as the poor thing , clearly, never got past elementary school.
Another poster pointed out that her timeline, having claimed she was taking the MCAT in January 2010 for admittance that fall. was a few years off and she could not have been a resident after a year and a half of med school. She and the other OWs went nuts on the guy for pointing out her lies.
OW are lawyers, nurses, doctors, judges and any profession inbetween. They are also smart enough to keep an A going, often for many years, without the BS having a clue. What could that say about the BS? Despite the obvious inconsistencies of the woman you mentioned on "Loveshack", never underestimate the intelligence of any woman, lest an OW especially. Posted via Mobile Device
Again, all this focus on the OW, she didn't do this to your marriage - ONS, EA, PA, whichever - your husband did it. Whether the OW knew your H was married or not is irrelevant - HE did this to your marriage. I also didn't make a sweeping statement that all A's resulted in love, I clearly stated this was not true. However, to think all A's are incapable of developing love - DENIAL!
And I still maintain it doesn't matter what the OW thought her place was, you can likely thank your husband for his part in that too. None of this is about what the OW did .. fog ... or anything else, its about what your H did, bottom line. And many times the way an OW acted and felt is a direct result to what YOUR H did and said to her. You stay, you deal. No point questioning anything about the OW - she isn't part of your M. Posted via Mobile Device
THIS I will agree with. And you know what? For SOME OW, yes, they work off what the H has said/done. But what of those who sit and wait, to hook their claws in, when they are vulnerable. I know my husband would not have even CONSIDERED his EA had I not pushed him away. I take ownership of that. I live with that everyday. Fortunately, his was caught in the beginning stages. And he agreed that our marriage was far more important than that chick. Granted, not all are like that. And yes, I believe that, had his continued, he would have fallen for her. But it didn't, and he didn't. For that, I am thankful. And we have cut out the biggest catalyst to our straying. Guess what! It's working. I know my husband was guilty. But SHE was JUST as guilty. Not for breaking my marriage vows, but for breaking the promise to the fiance she CLAIMS was cheating on her. She chose to betray our friendship by making a play for my husband. He was vulnerable in more ways than just my pushing him away. There were many factors to the situation, all of which she was privy to. And that makes her just as guilty in the situation... in different way, but still guilty.
Again, all this focus on the OW, she didn't do this to your marriage - ONS, EA, PA, whichever - your husband did it. Whether the OW knew your H was married or not is irrelevant - HE did this to your marriage. I also didn't make a sweeping statement that all A's resulted in love, I clearly stated this was not true. However, to think all A's are incapable of developing love - DENIAL!
And I still maintain it doesn't matter what the OW thought her place was, you can likely thank your husband for his part in that too. None of this is about what the OW did .. fog ... or anything else, its about what your H did, bottom line. And many times the way an OW acted and felt is a direct result to what YOUR H did and said to her. You stay, you deal. No point questioning anything about the OW - she isn't part of your M. Posted via Mobile Device
The OW's play a part in the demise of the marriage too. If they did not say yes to a married man, he would have nobody to cheat with. Both of them are to blame.
You sound like you're trying to make yourself feel better for being an OW. When you say "don't blame the OW", you truly mean "I want to deny any responsibility for my wrongdoings. Please stop pointing out that my actions are terrible." You will not find any sympathy for OW's or OM on this website because TAM is pro-marriage.
I'm sure that some affairs result in love-my cousin's MM left his wife of nearly 30 years for her, after more than five years of cheating. It is a damaged and flawed "love" because how can she trust a man who would cheat on his wife? My cousin is fifty now and he may just trade her in for a younger model, just like he did with his wife.
It takes two to tango... both AP and WS are guilty... AP even moreso if he/she knew the WS was in a relationship from the get go. THAT is VERY relevant imo...
OW are lawyers, nurses, doctors, judges and any profession inbetween. They are also smart enough to keep an A going, often for many years, without the BS having a clue. What could that say about the BS? Despite the obvious inconsistencies of the woman you mentioned on "Loveshack", never underestimate the intelligence of any woman, lest an OW especially. Posted via Mobile Device
Smart enough? It seems like a sad existence to me. Taking the crumbs offered by a married man. Meeting him when it's convenient for him. Being his dirty little secret on the side. Believing the lies of a practiced liar.
Meh, I'll pass on that. I have too much self-respect.
It's no compliment to be chosen someone's affair partner. All it means is he thinks you're cheap and easy.
But this is a troll thread and I shouldn't have fed the troll. My apologies to the regulars in the CWI.
OW are lawyers, nurses, doctors, judges and any profession inbetween. They are also smart enough to keep an A going, often for many years, without the BS having a clue. What could that say about the BS? Despite the obvious inconsistencies of the woman you mentioned on "Loveshack", never underestimate the intelligence of any woman, lest an OW especially. Posted via Mobile Device
Oh, crap. Are you under the impression that lawyers and doctors are smart? I am a lawyer and I am a virtual idiot.I'd sterilize myself, but it is too late. I have 5 kids.
Judges? Several of my friends are judges and all they have going for them is good hair and they smoke a lot of weed.
Half the judiciary in my county is barely literate.
I will never believe OW sit and wait to "get their claws" into a MM, but I do understand how a BS may view it as such. Somebody needs to be to blame for what happened to your M, but it wasn't the OW. However it happened, whoever initiated, family friend, married/engaged or otherwise, again, your H willingly let it happen... THAT is the bottom line regardless of how it all happened. HE was the one married to YOU and HE chose to cheat (in whatever manner of fashion he did). There is no other bottom line to this. Posted via Mobile Device
You are walking down the street and the stranger in front of you drops an expensive watch. You have no reltionship with this person at all.
Do you have a moral obligation to return the watch?
I will never believe OW sit and wait to "get their claws" into a MM Posted via Mobile Device
I know several women who do just this... They get a sick sort of thrill and one even laughed about how her sending a video to the wife of the wh with her sucking him off sent the wife into a suicidal stage. She thought it was hilarious.. Believe it or not.. but there ARE rotten people out there.
I know several women who do just this... They get a sick sort of thrill and one even laughed about how her sending a video to the wife of the wh with her sucking him off sent the wife into a suicidal stage. She thought it was hilarious.. Believe it or not.. but there ARE rotten people out there.
Many Ows are personality disordered. My XW was like this, preying on married men as she felt nothing but contempt for their wives(and the men , too, actually).
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