Troll? Lol. No, no troll here. And please, all who think I have in anyway justified being an OW, please re-read my posts - I haven't justified anything. The point I have made, is that YOUR H did this to YOU and YOUR marriage! You want to hate the OW, go ahead if it helps - she doesn't care. It doesn't change that your H decided to cheat, doesn't change that he may have fallen in love with an OW and just because he got caught, doesn't mean his feelings for OW changed either. HE did this to YOU. If you wish to stay married to him after, that's up to you, but again, has nothing to do with OW, that's about you and what you want to live with.
I'm done with this conversation now as I'm just saying the same thing over and over again. Whatever argument you give against the OW is like defending and excusing your H for what he did. If it's what makes it easier for you, be my guest. Enjoy your denial folks, I'm done here and won't be reading any further comments. Posted via Mobile Device
He did not love you. Don't let your ego get too inflated.
Cheaters are self absorbed and selfish and typically only love themselves.
I do not know about women who become OW unknowingly because the men lie but what kind of women will get herself into a relationship with a married man worst still one who has kids.......she sure knows she will break hearts, she sure knows she will destroy a family, she sure knows she will damage innocent children's future and most of all she sure knows that its immoral and dirty mindedness.....
OW are lawyers, nurses, doctors, judges and any profession inbetween. They are also smart enough to keep an A going, often for many years, without the BS having a clue. What could that say about the BS? Despite the obvious inconsistencies of the woman you mentioned on "Loveshack", never underestimate the intelligence of any woman, lest an OW especially. Posted via Mobile Device
Stop flattering yourself.
You are equating cunning and being deceptive to intelligence. It's not the same thing.
The fact that the BS was fooled only shows that she was an honest and trusting person who didn't think in a deceptive fashion.
I enjoy reading your posts, though.
My husband's Married other woman is dumber than a doorknob.
I could tell you of the stupid things she did following exposure, but it might give my identity away.
I do not know about women who become OW unknowingly because the men lie but what kind of women will get herself into a relationship with a married man worst still one who has kids.......she sure knows she will break hearts, she sure knows she will destroy a family, she sure knows she will damage innocent children's future and most of all she sure knows that its immoral and dirty mindedness.....
The OW doesn't care about any of that. Non said it herself in the post. They just want to get their's and that's it.
Oh of course its all the cheating husband's fault he is to be blamed, may be the wives should blame it on the fate for having their husband's bump into such immoral women. Same goes for the OM.
Many Ows are personality disordered. My XW was like this, preying on married men as she felt nothing but contempt for their wives(and the men , too, actually).
Good point.
There are actually studies that talk about women who are "groomed to have affairs,"
Typically they have a mother who is ill and unavailable to the husband and the husband turns to the daughter for companionship.
To do that he takes her on outings that the wife can not go on. Sometimes there is even incest if the wife is unavailable sexually.
These woman go for older men who are daddy figures and because they saw mommie as competition for daddy, they see the wife as they saw mommy.
These OW hated mommey and they hate the wife of the married man because they see her as competition like mommy.
Eww. So the BS is the bad guy cause she doesn't know she's being cheated on? Slagging the BS that you help betray is so cheap.
I think Non is pissed off that the married man she was fvcking did not leave his wife for her. Her defensiveness and bitterness are pretty apparent.
And I find it hard to believe that she was a BS THEN OW... Or maybe I got that wrong? I think just OW, thru and thru. So many of these posters, lately, sound alike....
And I find it hard to believe that she was a BS THEN OW...
Me, too. It just makes no sense. Especially when she defended the OW so much and did not have a single iota of empathy for the BS even when she claims to be one.
No it's not love...that is the very definition of a cum dumpster. When sex comes into play it's easy to get caught up and catch feelings. You are not soul mates. You are a mistake. It's not a wonderful time it's not a beautiful loving tender relationship.
It was just easier than actually having the balls to say to their spouse, I think we have a problem. Let's be adults and work it out or divorce. It is really that simple.
I speak from experience. I could have had an affair or divorced. I would have been justified in doing so. But I didn't. I did not take the easy route.
I said I want to be here and I want to fix our problems. My husband found tam and we joined. I took the hard way by staying and working through our bullsh!t.
Our problems seemed massive. WE did the hard work. It would have been sooo easy to run away. I had the balls to think about leaving do I had the balls to stay and work on us.
I am glad to hear you took the high road. Kudos.
I love the term "cum dumpster"
Yes. My husband does not want anything to do with the OW now, after being outed even though I have filed for divorce
That's my point....the 80 subtracts a little. So when this 20 comes along, it seems like the best thing since sliced bread.
But they are still a 20. Your spouse cooks for you cleans, washes out ya drawers, looks after you when you are sick. And basically loves you, faults and all.
That 20 will not do these things. Maybe your 80 slipped down a few notches, that means its time to talk.
Exactly. The OW in my husband's affair was cheating on her own very sweet husband.
My husband talks about her as if she were simply a convenient F buddy. He knew she would do the same to him, if they ever married. He was not interested in marrying her.
The OW doesn't care about any of that. Non said it herself in the post. They just want to get their's and that's it.
Oh thanks for pointing it, I must have skipped reading it. "their's" meaning other person's husband will be "their's?"
You can't take another person's wallet and say its "yours", you can't take another person's belonging and say its your's and you can't take another person's husband and say they are "your's" even a 4 year old preschooler knows these laws while playing with their peers....if the OW doesn't know this simple law then they are not even as smart as the 4 year old. Well, may be when one day the law says stealing, robbery and shoplifting are all ok then we can conclude that the OW have equal right.
Sorry folks, I have first hand experience on how a family will be broken into pieces when an inconsiderate women plays dirty games in the lives of others.
I do not know about women who become OW unknowingly because the men lie but what kind of women will get herself into a relationship with a married man worst still one who has kids.......she sure knows she will break hearts, she sure knows she will destroy a family, she sure knows she will damage innocent children's future and most of all she sure knows that its immoral and dirty mindedness.....
Oh, yea... and then there are the comments "I don't want to cause trouble..." Bullsh!t you don't! If you didn't you would have said, "hey, I think we should stop talking because this could potentially harm your marriage". NOPE! I got to read "No offense, but maybe now she knows what you went thru"...really? THAT'S your excuse? And then she STILL would maintain "we're just friends". He was vulnerable, she knew it, and she went for it. Simple as that. He fell for it BECAUSE of his vulnerability. And now, she is blocked, removed...every part of her is gone from his phone, my phone, our computers, Facebook. Everything. God, I feel sorry for her kids!
My husband does not want anything to do with the OW now, after being outed even though I have filed for divorce
Funny how that happens, right?
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He knew she would do the same to him, if they ever married. He was not interested in marrying her.
Most affairs don't lead to marriage. I've also read something similar to this on another forum I read. There was a man who had a long-term affair with his friend's wife. He said in the end, when both of their spouses (he and the OW's husband) filed for divorce, he realized, he didn't want her anyway--because he said he would "never be able to trust her." Anyway they both got divorced and are not together.
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Oh thanks for pointing it, I must have skipped reading it. "their's" meaning other person's husband will be "their's?"
What I meant was, the OW just wants what she wants w/o caring about anyone else, the consequences (meaning, she wants to her "hers" (sex, the MM, etc).
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He was vulnerable, she knew it, and she went for it. Simple as that. He fell for it BECAUSE of his vulnerability.
The OW may have very well known he was vulnerable and maybe that did make him "prone" BUT... he had a choice as well. So the blame lies with him too. Ultimately, it does take two to tango. You can't have an infidelity w/o two parties.
The OW may have very well known he was vulnerable and maybe that did make him "prone" BUT... he had a choice as well. So the blame lies with him. It's not all the OW's fault (and I am not defending any OW or OM). But ultimately, it does take two to tango.
I know he made the choice. Just as I made the choices I did. I know why he made the choice he did. And this whole ordeal taught BOTH of us a lesson.... tho he's stubborn and I have to draw everything out of him.... He chose to start an EA with her, even if it was born out of a real friendship and progressed. She chose NOT to suggest that he talk to me and work things out with me. Likely because of her own relationship problems (which I suspect were exaggerated). Anyway, the lesson learned was not to take what people say at face value AND make sure our marriage remains on solid ground from here on out!
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