This is his second thread I think. Find his first thread and read it first. He has an alpha wife and she may be cheating.
Yes, look in my profile and see my threads...
I know what you mean by alpha female. I've read both books and i am in the process of changing myself.
I suspect my wife of an EA or PA with a neighbor. My mistake was to confront with no proof. But i have VAR/GPS going while she goes to work. Nothing strange yet...But of course it may have went underground now so i will just keep checking.
Hi Jerry,
Thx. I've been looking over your thread. Sorry to meet you here.
My W is a smart women but, not very computer savvy. If she's using the computer for this (facebook, emails, etc) I'm sure she'll slip up at some point.
My youngest son ordered one and installed it on my wife's (his mother's) car. It used an older cell phone, was cheap. He paid for an activation fee and a monthly charge. We could track it in real time on line. It served it's purpose for me. It is still in the car and she does not know it and can be activated at any time.
The drawback. In real time it was not always accurate though once it went into history it was fairly close. What I mean is that as we were tracking her the icon showing the car's location would show it in a field, in reality she was in a parking lot at the OM's place of work about 200 meters away. For me, this was fine because she was in a rural area and there was no explaining away (I never revealed this to her) where she was. If I had printed out the picture on the computer and showed it to her this is what she would have seen. Her car sitting in a corn field 200 meters away from the meat plant that the OM worked for 1/2 hour.
The problem with this was in the city. I at first suspected someone else and this cheap unit would show her 4 blocks away from her real location. When her car was parked at our house at night it would show it 4 blocks away. So for city use I would not want a cheap unit like I have. In farm country it is more than fine.
The program had a history. That was very accurate. It showed a map of the roads she was on and where she parked, for how long, etc.
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Hi Jerry,
Thx. I've been looking over your thread. Sorry to meet you here.
My W is a smart women but, not very computer savvy. If she's using the computer for this (facebook, emails, etc) I'm sure she'll slip up at some point.
Yes, our wives are much alike. Thing is, I'm a stay at home dad. She tells me we are equal but does not really mean it. She used to belittle me in front of family and friends. And would scream at me in front of kids over the dumbest things. Posted via Mobile Device
Jerry,
Sounds like our wives are similar in some ways. My W doesn't often scream but, she is very articulate, can carve you to pieces verbally, and is great at making you feel like you are always the problem. She will also sometimes use language that would make a sailor blush.
Interesting update ....
Last night we were just talking and the subject came up of a couple we know who recently separated. Our guess is that the W was cheating and left. We had seen her in town with another guy recently.
Anyway, my W commented that it was a silly reason to break up and that they should just "get over it" (the W cheating and having an affair). It wasn't a big deal .... small potatos, and nothing to break up over. (her words).
Yeah, it seems like we have the power hungry women. I read both those books mentioned and it seemed to work right away but seems like i have a long road ahead.
My gut feeling was the first thing that made me keep my eyes and ears open.
I confronted with no proof and i got the "if you are accusing me then you must be cheating" saying. and "What proof do you have."
Got really defensive and would not talk to me for a few days.
After i talked with her and said i need a change (going back to work, doing more things for myself) she spent a whole saturday depressed and in bed. That night i came up to bed late and she initiated sex and we did things for 1 1/2 hours. Then sex was 7-8 times over 2 weeks.
But things now have been back to same old. 1 time over the last 7 days. She is still trying to show me she has more power now.
Interesting update ....
Last night we were just talking and the subject came up of a couple we know who recently separated. Our guess is that the W was cheating and left. We had seen her in town with another guy recently.
Anyway, my W commented that it was a silly reason to break up and that they should just "get over it" (the W cheating and having an affair). It wasn't a big deal .... small potatos, and nothing to break up over. (her words).
Wow! Now my antennas are really up.
oh boy...the things people will say in a "fog". You should have said how you feel about that statement. My guess is you let it go...which in the past i would have but now i say what is on my mind.
Yeah, I let her comments go. Right now I'm in quite mode, trying to find evidence. If I find anything, that will be the end. I've put up with so much the last 10 years that if I find that she has had an A, I won't even consider R.
Yeah, I let her comments go. Right now I'm in quite mode, trying to find evidence. If I find anything, that will be the end. I've put up with so much the last 10 years that if I find that she has had an A, I won't even consider R.
I see...i know you are in investigation mode but in the future if you find nothing please start standing up for yourself. You need to give her your opinion. By her saying that last night and you NOT saying anything, she pretty much spoke your words for you and assumes what she feels is what you feel.
BTW, on average how many times do you and your wife have sex.
I see...i know you are in investigation mode but in the future if you find nothing please start standing up for yourself. You need to give her your opinion. By her saying that last night and you NOT saying anything, she pretty much spoke your words for you and assumes what she feels is what you feel.
BTW, on average how many times do you and your wife have sex.
I see your point. I need to read up more on this stuff. You're right. At one of our counselling sessions my W announced that I "needed to grow a pair". I guess she might be out shopping for a rental "pair" herself lately?!
We used to have sex several times a week. However, the last 3 months it's been maybe once every 3 weeks. And then she wants it doen in 5 minutes so she can get some sleep. She is often tired at night and has started taking sleeping pills at home. This means she's out cold by 9:30PM ... not much happening most nights.
Interestingly, last night she was very receptive to sex. That took me by surprised.
I see your point. I need to read up more on this stuff. You're right. At one of our counselling sessions my W announced that I "needed to grow a pair". I guess she might be out shopping for a rental "pair" herself lately?!
We used to have sex several times a week. However, the last 3 months it's been maybe once every 3 weeks. And then she wants it doen in 5 minutes so she can get some sleep. She is often tired at night and has started taking sleeping pills at home. This means she's out cold by 9:30PM ... not much happening most nights.
Interestingly, last night she was very receptive to sex. That took me by surprised.
Hmmm...same boat i was in (or maybe still am).
Don't let a surprise sex night by wife change your gut feeling.
And sleeping pills are not needed unless she thinks she needs more sleep to get more energy up for an affair. Why would she be taking those pills?
Oh, anothr tidbit I forgot to mention ... about a month ago we started seeing a financial advisor together, trying to clear up some debt and save for college for the kids. Anyway, at one of the meetings the W brought up the possibility of getting a divorce to help out with things. That way she could live separately, and I would take on most of the debt since my CC is loaded and some college loans are taken out in my name.
I told her that was the most ridiculous thing I had ever heard and wasn't interested.
We both keep separate accounts and credi cards.
The more I recount all these incidents, the more I see a pattern of red flags! I am very tempted to confront her and ask her outright about an A. However, I don't want to tip my hand and have her go underground.
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