Ive been sat watching this and have to agree just a tiny bit with Riven and the OP...there is so much that goes on on here, that really shouldnt go on, and while i understand so many on here have lots to offer. So many really dont, and are tolerated and worse, they are taken on board.
Myown, You are in some cases making a valid point, but offending people and rubbing people up the wrong way, wont help in getting it across..
Just twicw, and I learnt. I do apologise if more people took offence than i imagined. But I did state at the start that I wasnt directing this at most, just some... I didnt attack anyone that were hurting, I attacked those that claimed to have the solution to their problems, but in reality just had the solution to their own.
Serious question: What did you learn when you were cheated on twice?
Ive been sat watching this and have to agree just a tiny bit with Riven and the OP...there is so much that goes on on here, that really shouldnt go on, and while i understand so many on here have lots to offer. So many really dont, and are tolerated and worse, they are taken on board.
Myown, You are in some cases making a valid point, but offending people and rubbing people up the wrong way, wont help in getting it across..
When you read a post that you think is giving really bad advice, do you say something about it? Or just let it go? You see it's not helpful to just say that some posts/posters give bad advice. It would be good know who you, Revin and the OP think are giving bad advice.
It would also be good to see what you think is good advice.
I got someone banned for that...first day I joined, I got propositioned and I reported him and he got banned. If people are doing that, report to the mods and they will take care of it.
Me, too. I have had several of the women propositioners banned.
And, no. I will not wear women's underwear.
Serious question: What did you learn when you were cheated on twice?
Just to follow my heart, and to totally ignore everyone else. take note of the signs and to act accordingley. I now have the best Husband in the world.
Just twicw, and I learnt. I do apologise if more people took offence than i imagined. But I did state at the start that I wasnt directing this at most, just some... I didnt attack anyone that were hurting, I attacked those that claimed to have the solution to their problems, but in reality just had the solution to their own.
But how do you know that the advice given here doesn't work for some or most... just because something different worked for you.. I would rather get the advice from say... 20 people that have been on the giving or receiving end of an issue (infidelity in my case),, than just 1 person and take my chances...this forum can give you hugs, or a 2x4 upside your head...
Maybe you lurked here for a while,,but if you get to actually "know" the posters here,, it's a great place to spend your time and get advice or just socialize...
But when you come in attacking people, saying they don't know how to get through relationship problems (especially infidelity),, you better be ready for battle..
I wish I'd of found this site earlier,, but not on the terms I did.
Now I'm addicted..I am on it any free time I have.
Im not bitter about anything, im really not. im a 32 year old female with her own mind, her own history that, as ive mentioned involves being cheated on. both of those situations ive come out the situation using my mind and my heart and ultimatley being the bigger person. i havnt had to hurt anyone just because they hurt me and i havnt had to ruin anybody.
Both, I thought it was three?
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Its a derogative term for people with learning disibilitys, Autism, Downs etc..
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If you have someone with learning disibilities in your family, why would you even use the term "window licker" with such ease? Deep south America perhaps? yeah that figures. Check shirt and a shot gun for when a Gay comes through town.....
As someone who works with disabled people, whether in jest or not as a retort, how dare you use the same derogatory statement so lightly while accusing others of the same actions.
As a mom of two autistic kids I'd sooner shoot myself in the left foot than let you near them as a professional who works with disabled people.
You're a disgrace to personal support workers everywhere.
There has been plenty of advice I CHOSE not to follow because I didn't think it fit my situation. There has been advice I did CHOOSE to follow because it made sense and I didn't think of it myself.
You can learn alot from other peoples misery and problems. They can learn from yours. In that way this site is every bit the support some of us has needed. But it still is personal choice as to what you do with the advice. No robots here. I've seen first hand people who rational their spouses behavior until they took some advice given only to find out that they have been indeed played. Try telling them this site is crap.
Folks honestly come her asking for opinions and ideas because the have run out of options they can think of to try. Especially in infidelity, they often are at a major disadvantage trying to uncover the truth and dealing with the lies self doubts and gas lighting they are living with.
This board offers opinions by any people who share what has worked for them and others.
In fact a major thing we offer is helping posters sort out the trees and forest.
And like the cheater support web sites, we help posters understand the options they have available to them and to understand common tricks like burner phones used by cheaters. Posted via Mobile Device
I read alot on here and it really helps me put things nto perspective in my relationship.
I may read a post that sounds alot like my situation and from it I learn a few things about me and take it back with me in my "toolbox" to better my relationship.It has worked well for me so I stay and help where I can as well.
Plus there are some really great people on here and it feels like a family here.
Yes,I still apologize,thanks for the trigger Myown. Being betrayed by the one you could count on the most hurts bad.Maybe not you,2,3 or more but hey who's counting? I am. And once was enough to almost do my family in.
Now I think I will brush my one tooth,grab my shot gun,get my horse and take my uneducated ass on a little gay hunting,cause thats what we do. Posted via Mobile Device
I agree,I do not think they are a troll anymore either.
But they do need to realize that they have an opinion and they are entitled to that but so is everyone else.
When I posted a problem on here I WANTED everyones advice...thats why I posted.I chose how to proceed after.
Just to follow my heart, and to totally ignore everyone else. take note of the signs and to act accordingley. I now have the best Husband in the world.
what if you had kids with the cheater? Or were at risk of paying alimony? Little different, eh?
STD's risk factored in? How about the other person's spouse and her right to know or her right to get tested for STDs.
Not so simple as just slinking off, is it?
When you read a post that you think is giving really bad advice, do you say something about it? Or just let it go? You see it's not helpful to just say that some posts/posters give bad advice. It would be good know who you, Revin and the OP think are giving bad advice.
It would also be good to see what you think is good advice.
Personally, I find some threads a little bit to intimidating to post if I dont agree with the advice given, especially if lots of people are agreeing.
I enjoy this site, but I have found on occasion ( not just in the CWI ) I have offered up something that I think I am well qualified offer, that may be totally different from what others are suggesting and I have been completley ignored.
Im 29 and just recentley married, i came here to improve on my own relationship by getting an insight into others and I think it does the job, but I can a little tiny bit see where Riven and OP are coming from :s
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