That would be simple wouldnt it, then the people im reffering to wouldnt have to look at my point of view, which may cause them to THINK before taking someone out of the depths of emotional hell and sending them in the direction THEY want them to go in, because thats what worked for THEM.Regardless of any other info they maybe leaving out, or resulting in an abuser feeling justified.
"As a whole the people here are simply awesome. The time and effort that they put into thinking about and advising others - complete strangers at that - is phenomenal." Thats my point.
"fall into a string of failed relationships as you have."
Really?, I was talking about teenage relationships, im in a stable marriage with no fidelity concerns at all..Oh but you wouldnt know that because you dont know me do you..you just assumed, as so many do on this site.
"Trollin, Trollin, Trollin on a river" I disagreed with the majority therefore Im a troll?
"Come back when you find out that your spouse has been fooking around on you. Maybe your tune will change. Why the hell are you on an infidelity site when all you have are petty marital issues?"
I do apologise, i was under the impression this site was called talk about marriage, as per google? You see this is my point "come back when you have been fooked around on then your tune will change" Its at that point you are so so so vulnerable. Ive seen suggestions of revenge affairs, leaving spouses penniless, exposing WS to their workplace ( because they deserve to have their career screwed up dont they?..on the advise of a group of people who have heard one side of the story) its unbelievable!
You had a string of failed teenage relationships. So do you think this made you a better person? Do you show more compassion now? How have these failures helped you in your current relationship? You seem to be in a lot of pain.
Realize that in this medium one way to get a person to open up is to make these assumptions. I can tell you this methodology works in other circumstances as well. We have posters who like to bait and switch. We get trickle truth. So the quickest way to cut to the chase is to make an assumption and let them validate or deny it. This is a way to move things forward.
So you got here becasue you have some minor marital issues. Indeed. I hope so for your sake. But if you communcate this way with your spouse then you may want to work on that. LOL.
So why not just save everyone all the fun and tell us what minor issues you were looking into. You were searching oin the web so this is the place you were looking for.
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"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
Im not bitter about anything, im really not. im a 32 year old female with her own mind, her own history that, as ive mentioned involves being cheated on. both of those situations ive come out the situation using my mind and my heart and ultimatley being the bigger person. i havnt had to hurt anyone just because they hurt me and i havnt had to ruin anybody.
That would be simple wouldnt it, then the people im reffering to wouldnt have to look at my point of view, which may cause them to THINK before taking someone out of the depths of emotional hell and sending them in the direction THEY want them to go in, because thats what worked for THEM.Regardless of any other info they maybe leaving out, or resulting in an abuser feeling justified.
Except, now, the people to whom you are referring, will see your point of view. So... you win!
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As far as " taking what i want then leaving the rest" Ive not responded to enough to know how to use the qoute thingy with as much talent as needed to do multiples.
Ummm... what does that have to do with good vs bad advice?
Honestly, I am having a hard time following your train of thought. I mean, I think I get the gist of what you are saying... but really, the way you are going about it is just...IDK, weird, to me. But that's probably because I'm a sheep and follow the flock instead of thinking for myself.
Im not bitter about anything, im really not. im a 32 year old female with her own mind, her own history that, as ive mentioned involves being cheated on. both of those situations ive come out the situation using my mind and my heart and ultimatley being the bigger person. i havnt had to hurt anyone just because they hurt me and i havnt had to ruin anybody.
See but you have become a better person from your experience so why not tell others your story to help them get through and be a better person too
Im not bitter about anything, im really not. im a 32 year old female with her own mind, her own history that, as ive mentioned involves being cheated on. both of those situations ive come out the situation using my mind and my heart and ultimatley being the bigger person. i havnt had to hurt anyone just because they hurt me and i havnt had to ruin anybody.
So what worked for you is the ANSWER? You need to bottle it and sell it. You could make a fortune.
I havn't got a story of any interest, i really havn't, not after reading this site as much as i have.
As far as " taking what i want then leaving the rest" Ive not responded to enough to know how to use the qoute thingy with as much talent as needed to do multiples.
To the reply's that suggest i just do one, thats great! "I dont like what you are saying therefore I refuse to even contemplate the essence of it"
Can NOBODY see, that when you are hurt, betrayed, and on the floor emotionally that you will take any advise given as gospel? that "the complete 180" is what you should do totally and that these people have been through it before therefore it must be the entirely correct thing for my situation? Can nobody see that everybody is in a completly unique situation?
People are unique like snowflakes. But they also have things in common just as snowflakes do. Snowflakes melt in the heat. By the process of sublimation they go from a solid to a gas. And so on. Unique but very similar in many ways.
Realize that seemingly contradictory things in the universe can and do co-exist. In fact they must for the others existence in balance.
In a complex world we are taught to deal with recurring patterns. To this end there are recurring patterns that emerge again and again.
Human behavior when it comes to make / female relationships can have many recurring patterns.
Much of human behavior is predicatable to a reasonable degree.
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Rectitude--Courage--Benevolence--Respect--Honesty--Honor--Loyalty
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
I havn't got a story of any interest, i really havn't, not after reading this site as much as i have.
As far as " taking what i want then leaving the rest" Ive not responded to enough to know how to use the qoute thingy with as much talent as needed to do multiples.
To the reply's that suggest i just do one, thats great! "I dont like what you are saying therefore I refuse to even contemplate the essence of it"
Can NOBODY see, that when you are hurt, betrayed, and on the floor emotionally that you will take any advise given as gospel? that "the complete 180" is what you should do totally and that these people have been through it before therefore it must be the entirely correct thing for my situation? Can nobody see that everybody is in a completly unique situation?
What is the purpose of the 180, it's goals? Do you know it's source? How do you know if it works or does not work?
That would be simple wouldnt it, then the people im reffering to wouldnt have to look at my point of view, which may cause them to THINK before taking someone out of the depths of emotional hell and sending them in the direction THEY want them to go in, because thats what worked for THEM.Regardless of any other info they maybe leaving out, or resulting in an abuser feeling justified.
Actually this site like most has a block feature. People do not have to look at your opinion. Or my opinion. Or anyone elses. Some think this is part of being in a free and open society.
You now are being disengenuous and assuming AND judgemental ( did I miss anything? ) by assuming that people do not THINK about what they post. When I was 32 I knew a lot too. Not enough though.
I have learned a great deal on this site.
You seem to be in a lot of pain no matter how you protest.
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Rectitude--Courage--Benevolence--Respect--Honesty--Honor--Loyalty
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
Last edited by Entropy3000; 05-21-2012 at 08:41 PM.
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