When you say do what's right, what is the chance I could end the affair and be decent to my wife, after all I think it's the affair that caused me to ignore her..
my w is a very strong person and doesn't deserve what I have done.
Yes, end the affair NOW, tell your wife whats happened, doing whats right starts with being honest with yourself, and your wife.
Wait whooaaa, you ask "whats the chance of being decent to my wife" Do you even love your wife?
Am I the only one who gets the feeling we're being played?
I thought the same but I heard a story from a friend of mine the other day very simaler to this (gender roles reversed) and I know that the one my friend told me is true so I now know how selfish and inconsiderate people can be.
I know I could be on a Jerry Springer episode but this is true. I am looking for help and my parents tell me to stay for the kids.. They also said leave the other woman and I could fix my marriage.
When you say do what's right, what is the chance I could end the affair and be decent to my wife, after all I think it's the affair that caused me to ignore her..
my w is a very strong person and doesn't deserve what I have done.
There is absolutely zero chance that you can just end the affair and be decent to your wife. It's far, far too late for that.
The only way to be "decent" is to be honest and tell your wife everything. She will help you decide what to do next, believe me. This is her life, too, and she has the right to decide how she wants to live it, with complete information so she can make an informed decision.
Am I the only one who gets the feeling we're being played?
I thought the same but I heard a story from a friend of mine the other day very simaler to this and I know that the one my friend told me is true so I now know how selfish and inconsiderate people can be.
The kicker is the one I know feels mad that his mistress is dating too...Really? <headshake>
Am I the only one who gets the feeling we're being played?
Nah, school is out in some areas...Summer fun begins. Out come the bridge dwellers. At the very least, they make things interesting. Unfortunately, they also stir things up so much that people don't notice the REAL posters....
I think you are a wonderful person. If having everything in life is a measure of a person that is. You enjoyed the comforts of hearth and home. A woman who gave you kids, provided you with sex and allowed you to treat her like sh!t for almost 10 years. And she did not get rid of you!
At the same time you had a mistress to escape to and have passionate love. I cannot see why you are not eating, drinking and sleeping like Bacchus, celebrating your fortunate life.
This is just a small wrinkle, if your mistress does not want to keep her position in 2nd place then tell her to take a walk and get another better mistress.
There are plenty of foolish married women in the world. Enough for every foolish married man so, don't fret.
See that was not so hard. Can't think why you did not figure this out yourself.
You are a toxic man. You should not be in any committed relationship with a woman until you address and resolve your issues that have lead you to the destruction of two marriages and two families. For your sake and those who love you, end your affair and seek some counseling, now.
I know I could be on a Jerry Springer episode but this is true. I am looking for help and my parents tell me to stay for the kids.. They also said leave the other woman and I could fix my marriage.
Not sure if there is anything left
Look, your parents are the ones who raised you, made you who you are.
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