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Old 05-24-2012, 10:34 AM   #106 (permalink)
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Depends on how you play the game I guess. I always thought Major League Baseball rules were:
1st base = kissing
2nd base = anything involving bare boobs
3rd base = petting her pvssy
home run = he's in there!

Maybe there are different rules for different divisions?
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Thank you for the school lesson, professors.
This has been discussed and debated by guys ever since we were in high school.
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and I thought 3rd base included oral

is anal a grand slam?
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This has been discussed and debated by guys ever since we were in high school.
Sh!t I'm still figuring how many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie-pop.
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Old 05-24-2012, 10:58 AM   #111 (permalink)
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What if your ****ty girlfriend tells other friends or acquaintances about what you've done?

Don't you think that's already happened?

You basically threw the guys out and ruined her fun AND it was your first time cheating on your husband. PRETTY JUICY NEWS. Hard to keep to yourself. Can you hear her now, next time she's out drinking with someone other than you? "Can you keep a secret? You'll never believe what Tina did!"

Nevermind the fact that she could let slip in front of your husband, maybe even on purpose if she's jealous of your so-called "great marriage" that she knows the real truth about.

Do you and your husband tell other people like your ****ty girlfriend about how "you tell each other every dirty secrect," "you are soulmates," etc.? Would this type of stuff make her, or ANYONE ELSE SHE MIGHT TELL, jealous?


I can't imagine this won't get to the husband eventually. Tina, think of this like life insurance risk. You can risk not telling him, and if he doesn't find out, win/win - like you didn't have to pay for the insurance, and nobody died. But if he finds out, and you didn't buy the policy (i.e. telling him what happened), you are totally screwed. If you tell him, the chance of marriage protection is much, much more likely.

So it's a probability game. What are the chances he finds out if you don't tell him? I think pretty damn good. So I would buy the policy and sit him down for a talk.
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Sh!t I'm still figuring how many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie-pop.
100. And 1. LOL
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Sh!t I'm still figuring how many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie-pop.
I never made it without biting. The world may never know.
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Thanks guys.. I get it 100%. I've come to realize exactly what caused me to stray.. You make it seem like I'm out on a vendetta to cheat but it wasn't even like that. You don't know me and this is just out of my character... Alcohol fueled the night and my choices were seriously poor. This past year has been packed full of loneliness, boredom, depression from multiple miscarriages and a lot of stress from work.. Yes I should seek some help and I will.
I feel that you have received sufficient support from this tread to make an informed decision about how to proceed. My two cents here: you have made a mistake, just deal with it and live with the consequences. If you are both dedicated to this relationship, I know ..., your husband will make some changes to accommodate your needs. It is obvious that you are going through a rough patch with little support from your husband. Obviously alcohol and bad advise from your "friend" played a role. Need to take all of this into consideration during your discussion.
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Depends on how you play the game I guess. I always thought Major League Baseball rules were:
1st base = kissing
2nd base = anything involving bare boobs
3rd base = petting her pvssy
home run = he's in there!

Maybe there are different rules for different divisions?
Yes but it depends on NL vs. AL. NL has no designated hitter. But it comes down to house rules. It gives a different meaning to going deep, foul balls or hooking foul.

A home run is a home run whether one comes in sliding or standing up.
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Old 05-24-2012, 12:11 PM   #117 (permalink)
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and I thought 3rd base included oral

is anal a grand slam?
Do not confuse this with a dirty sanchez.

I think oral is sex and a home run. Anal too. Maybe there is an inside the park homerun ... idunno.
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It can be a part of making out.
I told her that too. It always was for me anyway. But it may be the difference between feeling up a bare boob or one that is covered.
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It can be a part of making out.
I, vaguely, remember this.
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Yes but it depends on NL vs. AL. NL has no designated hitter. But it comes down to house rules. It gives a different meaning to going deep, foul balls or hooking foul.

A home run is a home run whether one comes in sliding or standing up.
Also depends on what hemisphere one resides in, and whether it is a leap year.
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