05-24-2012, 03:34 AM
Join Date: Jan 2012
| | Re: Would you take a bullet for your fWS?
Originally Posted by Wanting a Strong Marriage
This is an interesting intellectual exercise. I wonder if there is a gender difference. I am married. Good marriage with no major issues, i.e. divorce is not looming on the horizon or anything. I love my husband, very much so....but, I just don't see me jumping in front of a bullet for him. Now, if he got shot, I would definitely be there 100% to help him heal, but the reality is, I have kids and I don't think I would put myself in mortal danger, even for him, and leave my children without a mother.
I think you have a point in there being a gender difference, males "are supposed" to protect their family with all of their masculine strength and agression... while the female normally takes the domestic supportive role (ie. you would help him heal a 100%).
I used to share that point of view, and I would do it without any doubt, anytime, for my kids.
What triggered my question was my awareness of my own change in doing so for my fWW. I haven't shared it with her - how would she think of this change? Would she expect me to take the bullet before? If yes, will she think, that I am the one that is not fully into saving what's left of our relationship?
Like you stated... it is mostly an intellectual exercise - but to me, it started quite emotinal.