05-24-2012, 09:43 PM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Re: marriage counseling?? good or bad
Originally Posted by motherof4boys
So what do i do? I have tried to let go of him and to try to get it thru my head that I will be alone. He says that we both just need time to ourselves because the last 7 years we have been all about eachother. he wants me to go out and have girls night or go have drinks, etc....but i'm not that type of person. I'd rather just be home with my family. I cry and cry everyday hoping something will change his mind. I even sent her a facebook message asking if she would back off, she told him she wansnt going to talk to him anymore and then the next day started texting again.
I'm not a strong enough woman to go through this. I've already been fighting a very hard case of depression through all of this, and i'm honestly scared for myself if he does leave. I'm scared I wont be able to care for my children.
What do you do? You look him in the eye and tell him that you REFUSE to be his back up. It's either all or nothing. He agrees to fix the marriage or he goes. Don't give him any room to wiggle out of anything.
As for the kids, if he chooses to leave... you will do it. Why? Because they need their mom, plain and simple. If you need meds to help you thru it, so be it. But you can do this. You love your kids, right? You want the best for them, right? Then you can do this, no matter what the outcome. Both of my sisters have divorced, and they were/are strong for their kids. I, on the other hand, chose reconciliation, and that is going well, thus far. But you can do this, no matter what. It's amazing what a person can do when faced with a difficult situation.