Confused need help

warlock07 · 05-27-2012, 01:29 AM

So you are ok with the H exposing you at work? Depending on the state, he can sue the hospital for alientation of affection. Did the major part of the affair take place in the hospital?

You seem to be in lot of panic and anxiety. Maybe you should get checked up.

saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by bryanp

I have to ask you what in the world did you think would happen when you engaged in a sexual affair and put your husband at risk for STD's and made him look like a fool? Surely just because you were bored you must have realized that in all likelihood you were destroying your marriage.

If the roles were reversed and your husband engaged in a sexual affair for months behind your back and giving you an STD on top of it; do you think you would be so accepting and forgiving as your husband? In addition, telling your husband you did it because you were bored is sad. Not only did you have absolutely no respect for your husband but you did not even bother to demand protection and ended up giving your husband an STD. You are self-destructive and your actions showed in reality how little you cared about your husband and your marriage.

You are absolutely right what was I thinking.? It was not just boredom I was very attracted to him.
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saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 01:39 AM

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Originally Posted by warlock07

So you are ok with the H exposing you at work? Depending on the state, he can sue the hospital for alientation of affection. Did the major part of the affair take place in the hospital?

You seem to be in lot of panic and anxiety. Maybe you should get checked up.

Of course I am in panic mode what do you think?????
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warlock07 · 05-27-2012, 01:44 AM

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So you are ok with the H exposing you at work?

Haven't answered this bit.

saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 01:44 AM

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Originally Posted by morituri

You and your husband share 50% of the responsibility for the state of your marriage but you are 100% responsible for your choice to have the affair. Look for a pro-marriage counselor, one that will hold you accountable for your affair and not blame your husband for it. One that can help the two of you the tools to give each other what you need from the other. If there is mutual willingness, the two of you can transcend the ordeal of infidelity.

I will do that, because the other ones just did not work at all.
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saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 01:45 AM

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Originally Posted by warlock07

Haven't answered this bit.

Not really , NO a little freaked out OK.?.
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saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 01:50 AM

Warlock how can I be OK with this seriously. My reputation as a nurse will be tarnished FOREVER! I am a nervous wreck tbh that is why I am on here. I can't sleep, eat or even think clearly.
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warlock07 · 05-27-2012, 01:53 AM

What purpose does your H think the exposure will serve?(Assuming he did not already) Have you discussed his motivations? You do not want additional resentments while trying to repair a broken marriage.

warlock07 · 05-27-2012, 01:55 AM

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Originally Posted by saveourmarriage

I will do that, because the other ones just did not work at all.
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they didn't because you weren't into it. You are an adult. Take responsibility

saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 01:58 AM

HE wants to get him fired. I told him to not send the letter until my last day at work. He wants to say that this doc had sexual relations with a nurse on hospital property. I know I should have told my H about having intimacy at work. But I NEVER thought he would do this..EVER? My H allowed me to work with this person even after the affair. That was a big mistake on my part. I thought we could still be friends. it wen we would chat it would always turn sexual. I did not quite understand why? But now I do.
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snap · 05-27-2012, 02:02 AM

If the fact that a doctor is infected and is spreading an STD at hospital premises comes out, quite possibly hell will break loose.

BigLiam · 05-27-2012, 02:02 AM

An ER nurse and a MD engage in practices that cause the nurse to contract an STD? WHere did you guys get your training?
Then, the nurse accuses her husband of givng her an STD?

Okay, remind me never to treat at your facility.

Seriously, though, this is one of the most incredible stories I have come across in a while, particularly the accusing the husband aspect. I mean, really, that is way over the top cruel.

saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 02:12 AM

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Originally Posted by BigLiam

An ER nurse and a MD engage in practices that cause the nurse to contract an STD? WHere did you guys get your training?
Then, the nurse accuses her husband of givng her an STD?

Okay, remind me never to treat at your facility.

Seriously, though, this is one of the most incredible stories I have come across in a while, particularly the accusing the husband aspect. I mean, really, that is way over the top cruel.

I know I did not realize what I was doing at the time. If I could turn the clocks back I would, but I can't !,, I will regret this for the rest of my life!
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BigLiam · 05-27-2012, 02:18 AM

Have you looked at that marriagebuilders site? The owner claims high success rates for reconciling.

saveourmarriage · 05-27-2012, 02:23 AM

Yes we both did my sister had an affair and I tried to help her through that site. I want to R but I know he is not ready. I know that he is hurting more than I can begin to imagine,
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