Lets say she is on the straight and nerrow and has othere legit business to attend to. Do you want to start a relationship when you are not the priority?
You could go out and find a women that doesn't have all this drama and find a women that is open and more caring.
Its only been a years since D and you should play the field.
She won't even give you her email address. How odd is that?
And she may really love you, but many women like her will really love someone else tomorrow. Look at yourself, what would attract her to a man like you. I have met men in the construction business that used to scam women/men from inside prsion. telling many men and women how much they loved them, couldn't believe how much etc. One man said he had over twenty people sending them money gifts, etc. I'll bet this is why she disappears. How do you contact her when she is gone? Do you have a landline number or just a cell?
Tigers don't change their stripes.
Definitely sounds like a (ex) prostitute.
Only a cell number of hers. We talk on the phone alot everyday. I do have an address and have been to her house but am not sure if her name is her real name and not sure how to prove it is.
She is very close to her children,this I know to be a fact and they are visiting her even though they have supposedly moved recently and living in another state from hers.
Bart: Way too many red flags popping up here! I could only recommend that you exercise your energy in some other direction because this situation would, no doubt, cause you heartache and possibly even worse.
There's a lot of good people out there. It's well worth your time and energy to shop around to find the one who has the potential to convey their love to you in much the same manner as you would for them!
I went out with a young lady who was suspected to be a drug dealer.
But it was all right! Turned out she was a part time call girl, instead! Seriously. I was 22 and she was my first long term girl friend, who was six years older than me. (I am mid 50s, now)
What really did cause the relationship to founder was that she ended our relationship to be with a woman friend. That was the deal breaker...
****! And I wonder why sometimes I feel a bit messed up!
But back to your problem. You would tie yourself to a crime family? Really?
Bart: Way too many red flags popping up here! I could only recommend that you exercise your energy in some other direction because this situation would, no doubt, cause you heartache and possibly even worse.
There's a lot of good people out there. It's well worth your time and energy to shop around to find the one who has the potential to convey their love to you in much the same manner as you would for them!
I understand your reasoning. I guess that I am buying her story of needing to be there to pack to move,that she can see her children there,and it makes sense to me that she wouldn't give me alot of info due to the fact that I could be a possible witness in court against her children if I know alot.
I am buying everything she is telling me but....can't make sense of why she can't come up here right now nor will she be able to spend as much time here as she did last month. Her excuse is doctor appointments and moving furniture and things from her house to a storage unit.
I have thought of paying her an unexpected visit but can't bring myself to do it for some reason. Guess I want away from her if she has another man or if she is in the drugs right with her daughters. She definitly is aiding and abiding in my opinion. But she says that though the law is after one daughter,that daughter said the drugs were for her pain from serious injury that is legitimate but the whole family is moving and both daughters are drug users she has told me and live a wild life.
Why can't you break up with her without a good reason? You owe her nothing.
Can you afford a PI?
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Can't afford a PI. As far as breaking up without evedence....I love her and believe that she truely loves me. I know her well enough to know that she has always been an over protective mother that spoiled her children worse than I have ever seen. Though she loves me,she probably wouldn't put me before her children though they are all adults and on their own. I have told her that I would not want them to visit her at my house for fear of the law thinking that I might be involved in whatever they are doing. According to what she is telling me,they are all probably going to end up in my state and maybe in my city.
Though the daughters seem to be criminals,this woamn loves me and is trying to hold on to me though she knows of my concerns. I do believe she fears losing me but she will always let her children make life difficult for her I know.
I have determined that if the day comes after she and I are together all the time..if her children cause problems in my and her life then I will breakup with her. She maynot see it but she brings alot of baggage with her.
You're so far deep in denial, that even if you had absolute proof staring you in the face that this "woman" is running a con on you, you would still find an excuse to overlook her "short comings."
Look, if you won't end this relationship, at the very least protect your health, wear a condom EVERY time you have sex & don't leave her alone in your house, she could be stashing drugs there.
BUT, most of all, don't let her use your address for anything!
I would hate to see your next post be about how to get her adult children out of your house, after having to post bail due to HER illegal activites.
You do realize this tale is going to end with you either being bilked out of all your money, going to jail, or laying in a ditch, feeding blow flies don't you? I've made some crazy choices under the influence of vagina but none of it is worth the misery you are lining up for yourself.
I need to ask a question here. I know there are some very insightful and intelligent people on here from my posting last winter. And I am asking for help and appreciate everyone's posts.
I have never met anyone that had children like hers. And in the back of my mind I have thought of all the terrible things just like some of you are doing. Listing things like I am makes it sound that there is a possibility that this woman and her children may be a family of low life drug dealing scum. And they may be,I don't know yet. But they may not be. They may be individuals that are poor and getting involved in criminal low life activity out of ignorance or maybe because they are crooked at heart. I honestly don't know. Just the mere mention of some of the things they are doing scares alot of people and makes the imagination run wild with assumptions. I have done that too because I am in love with this woman and she has convinced me that she is not involved or evil though it initiallly appears that way upon hearing of her life and her childrens life.
Again I appreciate every post. But I need info as to how to know if.. 1) She maybe cheating on me with another man or...2) She may be involved in illegal activity of any kind.
As my posting here is making many concerned and making it sound obvious of her doing me wrong...I have no proof and have only assumptions to go on which may be only from the imagination because of other such stories we have heard in past years. Trust me,my imagination has gone off the chart wondering if this woman may be....who knows what,because of past like stories I have heard of. Matter of fact,I think I am beginning to burden and worry her with my suspicions. But she is being understanding of that and she is vowing that she did doing nothing criminal,has no criminal record,and that she is faithful and true to me.
I don't trust the internet background checks to give information other than what public records already have told me. I need ways to find proof if she is into illegal activity or if she has another boyfriend that she is with when not with me.
I have no way of checking her cell phone with it being in another state with her nor her computor. I could use a VAR in her car next time she comes up and maybe a tracking device on the car to see where she is going. But I guess I am saying that I want proof and not react out of fear by stereotyping her with other like individuals that I have heard of. I know that I may be a blind fool not wanting to see the truth,but,I only want to make sure before I make my move.
I know very little as to how to properly get real facts about her and would appreciate any info as to what to do to know for sure.
Thinking is done with the head and not the heart or genitals. You mentioned they were avoiding the police because at least one had an arrest warrant? You mentioned prostitution, drug dealing, and maybe ID theft/fraud. Rebecca of Sunny Brook Farm doesn't turn tricks, sell dope, or bilk old men out of their life savings. She never ran from the law. Your situation smells like trouble because it is. I'm sure you'll be ok. Even though you hooked up with her on the internet and you don't know her from Adam's cat; even though she's spending loads of time with another guy whom you believe she's nailing, despite all of this, she'll see that you're a nice guy and she would never take advantage of you. You're not like the 15,378 guys who came before you. Poverty is poverty and criminality is criminality. Abraham Lincoln was poor. He didn't turn tricks or sell dope and he didn't hide from the law.
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Re: Dating a possible drug dealer 
Seriously. I was 22 and she was my first long term girl friend, who was six years older than me. (I am mid 50s, now)
