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Old 05-25-2012, 06:53 PM   #1 (permalink)
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She has two daughters that have been strippers and perhaps drug dealers. They all are moving to another state at the same time. She told me that one is running from the law in the state they live in. All have been in trouble with the law in the past but she won't tell me why. I don't know if they are drug dealers or scammers or what. I do know that she has a past of befriending people out of their will and/or property. She is able to use my address as residency and is either wanting to move to my town or another state and is asking me to move there. The entire family has a criminal past. She is good friends with a married man that lives close to her that does alot of work for her. I think she is cheating with him because she talks of him often and she only lives with me for a short time and then has to go back home to her state though she gives me no real reason why she can't stay with me longer. Not sure if she is addicted,or has a boyfriend or has a drug business to get back to in order to run. Help!
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And you are dating her because . . .?
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We met on the internet. I had been recently divoced after a long marriage and was lonely. The info I give is what I have learned after we met and after I developed feelings for her and her for me.
To this point,it doesn't seem that she has started a relationship with me for any scamming or reasons to use me unless it would be to use my residence or use me as a cover-up. I offer no money or help,I show concern about her and her daughters past,and I do believe that she is sincere with me and loves me. Could be a mother that is hovering and protecting criminal children or a woman that is trying to change. But,as you might guess,I was lonely and perhaps blinded by love. She has gave me no solid evidence that she is cheating other than when we are together she has wandering eyes and that the married guy neighbor is a friend and does work for her. She is a woamn that likes to talk with construction workers near her house and the male friend is the type that is low income and from my perspective,a low life that visits female neighbors. Not sure. Maybe I am just feeling suspicious because of her children;s criminal past and the family lifestyle being low.
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You realize that you are a fool if you think you are the one she's not going to pull something on, when everything else in her life is shady.

I mean come on, you see that right?
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I realize you said you're lonely but your standards are so very low if you think this woman is the best you can do.
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Dating this woman? Stop. Now.
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Where do you think her daughters learned from?
At the very least, she is a horrible Mother, at most, she in with them neck deep.

I've known families like this. Cut off all contact NOW.
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good god man, there are other women out there.
she cant be THAT good in bed to make up for that.
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You realize that you are a fool if you think you are the one she's not going to pull something on, when everything else in her life is shady.

I mean come on, you see that right?
That thought has ran through my mind a thousand times....yes!
But,if she is faking and using me then hollywood has no better actors than this woman,seriously. She calls several times a day,says she loves,can't live without me and talks of living with me forever. I have no money or property for her to be after. If she is faking then I have no clue what she is after from me.
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2 x 4 time--You can do better! Your gut is screaming run; listen to it.
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I realize you said you're lonely but your standards are so very low if you think this woman is the best you can do.
Yes,a friend told me that I have 'settled' to be in a realstionship with this woman. There other details I could give to further show this but I need to keep it anonymous as possible should she or a child or friend read.
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Delete the thread after a day or two
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That thought has ran through my mind a thousand times....yes!
But,if she is faking and using me then hollywood has no better actors than this woman,seriously. She calls several times a day,says she loves,can't live without me and talks of living with me forever. I have no money or property for her to be after. If she is faking then I have no clue what she is after from me.
How do you thing conmen and women make so much money and keep out of jail for so long???

Because they ARE Hollywood standard actors!
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good god man, there are other women out there.
she cant be THAT good in bed to make up for that.
OH YES SHE IS! That's another of my concerns. She supposedly was married for over 3 decades to a man that passed away and she has only had one boyfriend since. But...she performs like a taylor made porn queen pleaser with only the desire to please in whatever way you ask.
Which has me concerned that prostitution may have been in her past. I so hope that I am wrong and that my suspicions are wrong. Guess you would have had to know my past experience and my ex to explain.
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That thought has ran through my mind a thousand times....yes!
But,if she is faking and using me then hollywood has no better actors than this woman,seriously. She calls several times a day,says she loves,can't live without me and talks of living with me forever. I have no money or property for her to be after. If she is faking then I have no clue what she is after from me.
They are that good.
My OW was telling me everything that I wanted to hear doing whatever she could to win me away from my wife.
Later I discovered that I was one of three men that she was working over to latch on to. He husband had finally had enough of her crap and left.

She was doing meth and her daughter ended up getting busted for dealing, so now I know where she was getting it. She also allowed her kids to go steal from parked cars all over our town and would drive them sometimes. This last paragraph only became known to me after I dumped her.
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