blueskies30

I'm going through other things in my life right now that minimizes even thinking of OW. I'm not sure if this is a small sign of healing or I'm just mourning something else. It's been since early December that I found out about the OW although I first learned there may be an OW in November. My husband and I started reconsilstion communication back up again in November with him moving back in new years.

All sex between my husband and I is on hold for a while. He's not feeling up to it at all with all that's going on in our life right now. I'm actually feeling less drive too at least to take care of my self.

So I wonder if I'm starting to heal from OW. If it want for her I would not know anything happened.

Right now I'm more mourning losing my
House than the affairs
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Complexity

I think you have bigger priorities now. The only way to tell whether you've healed from the OW is if all these things didn't exist and you felt the same way.

blueskies30

True, probably....

I know I'm going to be tested as far as healing when my husband leaves to work out of state. We have has to do this before where he leaves for several months, but never where I have to live with his family.

I did make the first step to try to get OW out of my thoughts by blocking her on FB after she messaged and wanted to know how my marriage was going which was the first full day I was back from a cruise. So I know she has been following me on FB.
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Fvstringpicker

I read and respond to many of these post. I was the cheater. She is my second wife (15 years) and I fell off the wagon. We reconciled about 11 years ago and she says she has forgiven me. With her its like it never happened. But I read these post and realize the pain I caused in as many years to the best thing that ever happened to me. I will never forgive myself and will always be haunted by what I did to her and our marriage. I lucked out. I didn't deserve it but I lucked out. I can only hope I've made some of it up to her and will continue to do so. But I owe her a debt I can never repay. Affairs are the ultimate betrayal. Affairs are like drugs. They destroy you and those that matter most.

blueskies30

My husband does not call what he did an affair, but when I found out he said he betrayed me and that he did not deserve me. D day for me when I knew for sure was somewhere around Dec 12 or 13th.
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