Thanks for clarifying. Others reading your thread may find it instructive. Researching the OM / OW is especially important when you have kids. Posted via Mobile Device
CF, she WAS a SAHM, but she works now. So that should have some bearing. I don't see why your lawyer is not trying to help you keep some $$$. So, are you asking for 50/50 custody?? Did you ask the lawyer to restrict him from being around your kids. domestic violence should help with that. Are you still wanting R.
CF, she WAS a SAHM, but she works now. So that should have some bearing. I don't see why your lawyer is not trying to help you keep some $$$. So, are you asking for 50/50 custody?? Did you ask the lawyer to restrict him from being around your kids. domestic violence should help with that. Are you still wanting R.
As far as restricting him, we are going to try. As far as a R, NO WAY IN HELL!!!!!! Nope. For what??? I am working on me. There is no us now. I was the one who was working on tring to save it, no one else. She thinks the grass is greener, will I hope she has a lot of spray paint, cause it aint greener. She lost the GREATEST man ever and thats how I feel now. I may not be perfect, but I know I am pretty damn close to it. Im not tring to egotistical but that is how I feel. Oh and she does NOT have a real job.
As far as restricting him, we are going to try. As far as a R, NO WAY IN HELL!!!!!! Nope. For what??? I am working on me. There is no us now. I was the one who was working on tring to save it, no one else. She thinks the grass is greener, will I hope she has a lot of spray paint, cause it aint greener. She lost the GREATEST man ever and thats how I feel now. I may not be perfect, but I know I am pretty damn close to it. Im not tring to egotistical but that is how I feel. Oh and she does NOT have a real job.
That's fantastic!
Just want to forewarn you though, the emotional roller coaster ride is just beginning. There will be days or times when you won't feel so great. I suggest printing out a list of your great qualities and why you're the greatest so that you can read it when you're feeling low and depressed. A good place is near your bed so you can read it when you wake up in the morning. Or at least something positive.
Just want to forewarn you though, the emotional roller coaster ride is just beginning. There will be days or times when you won't feel so great. I suggest printing out a list of your great qualities and why you're the greatest so that you can read it when you're feeling low and depressed. A good place is near your bed so you can read it when you wake up in the morning. Or at least something positive.
Already done that. I read them everyday. I know its just the beginning, and there is a long road ahead, but I am ready to take it on head first. I always tried to live my life with no regrets and I know that I dont and will not have any with this.
Go back and read this whole thread if you EVER have a soft thought for her again. the pu**y grew into a lion dude.
You know what, I did that tonite, and thats how I feel!!!
Here is the latest:
She was suppose to be served Friday but my lawyers court proceedings went longer then she planned. She kept me informed about it. She couldnt get it to the process server in time. She apologized about it. She said Monday the 25 for sure. The funny thing is that Monday I have to work at the time when she is getting served. I know my phone is gonna definitely gonna be full when I get out of work.
I cant believe the way I feel about it. I mean here was the person loved more than anything else in the world, and Im serving her with divorce papers, and Im kinda happy about it. I dont know why. Maybe because of everything that happened, or the way everything played out, I dont know. Its funny, when I seem down about this, like I did over the weekend, I just keep thinking of my kids, and my list. The list is list of my great qualities and why Im the greatest. I read them every day once I get up and before I go to bed to remind myself that I didnt cause this, nor was I to blame for any of this. But, at one time was my biggest concern was that she would put some if not all of the blame of this one. Now, I can take it. If that makes her feel better, what ever. Im a big man(literally and figuratively), and I know the truth. I know one day my kids will know the truth, and thats what matters to me!! Not that I will ever bad mouth her around them, they will know.
For what it matters, I'm proud of you. You have not let her crap define who your are and what you want to be....that is awsome and thank you for sharing.
I hope it shows the newbies what needs to be done to move on with or with out the wayward.
Ok:
She was served, and nothing from her. I was shocked to say the least. I knew she would never come crying back or anything, but sure thought it would have been different. Im glad it was that way though, it was less stressful for me. I cant thank EVERYONE on here enough for all your support through this. Dont worry, I aint gonna be a stranger, thats for sure. I know I have a long road ahead of me that may get pretty rough, but I know now that I have the strength to handle it. I will keep everyone here updated as to what goes on.
I hate to upset you more, but the reason you never heard from her is because she's bawling her eyes out on OMs shoulder. But that's fine and to be expected because she's so deep in the fog. Just continue your 180 and continue to detach. You will gain strength as time goes by.
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