Does my wife cheat again?

Complexity · 06-01-2012, 09:01 AM

Get a restraining order that prevents him from any contact with your children.

Prince888 · 06-01-2012, 09:26 AM

Thank you.

I am not so familiar with Danish law but I believe a restraining order here is only possible in cases of stalking, physical threat or violence. The OM was convicted for fraud and theft but not for any violent crimes, as far as I know. Of course it is a good if he is not violent but I still don't want such a person near my kids. They can only learn bad things from him.

Jonesey · 06-01-2012, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Prince888

Yes, two. A son of 8, a daughter of 5. This makes it all so much more complicating but I agree with many of you that it all looks bad now and that time to act is near.

The kids were one reason why I decided to give her a second chance.

I have not written this before but my wife told that the OM has a criminal record and I don't like the idea of seeing such a person getting involved with my kids.

Hej!

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aug · 06-01-2012, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Prince888

Yes, two. A son of 8, a daughter of 5. This makes it all so much more complicating but I agree with many of you that it all looks bad now and that time to act is near.

The kids were one reason why I decided to give her a second chance.

I have not written this before but my wife told that the OM has a criminal record and I don't like the idea of seeing such a person getting involved with my kids.

It appears your wife likes the "bad boy" type. Dont think you can ever compete with that. And do you want to become that type of a person in order to keep your wife? I hope not -- it's just not worth it.

And because of your wife attraction to those type of people, that attraction would rub off on your kids. Anything she teaches her kids would be skewed.

Shaggy · 06-01-2012, 10:05 AM

You need to follow a ZERO tolerance policy with any contact. I know it's hard, and you fear she may just leave, but she may be needing a strong man to demand from her to do the right thing.

AngryandUsed · 06-01-2012, 01:11 PM

Was she truly remorseful when the first A (supposedly) was revealed to you?

It is possible that they have other means of communicating. Mobile talks and SMS?

TRy · 06-01-2012, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Prince888

It means they have re-established email and maybe sms contact though not re-started their affair. I am afraid I have to add the word "yet" here. I don't really know how to handle this as confronting her with information means that I have to reveal I used a keylogger. Maybe I should keep an eye on her before taking any further steps. If it gets serious again, I will leave her, that's for sure.

Do not wait to gather more evidence, you know enough now to act. Ask her face to face if she is in contact with the OM. If she says no, do not tell her that you have read her emails or what you know, but tell her that you know that she is not telling the truth. Then ask her again and tell her that you need the truth this time. If she still does not admit it then there is no chance of true reconciliation and you should move on. As long as you know the truth, you do not have to prove anything to her to act. You are not in a court battle where you must prove anything to anyone else but yourself.