BigLiam

This woman always had the option to divorce. She is totally responsible for cheating and equally responsible for some of the logistical problems in the marriage.
If the distancing was too much for her, she could have divorced.

warlock07

Was the relationship with this guy physical?

jadams14

Her accuse was that she was no longer happy in Texas and that she wanted to move back to her family. Even though we had been away for over 14 years on our own. So she moved back home to her parents house. Then later told me that if I had not came back when I did she was going to leave me but never did. What I can not wrap my head around is the fact that she made almost six months and I had one month before I came home when she started and still is seeing the other guy.
She is not to apologize for coming back because she thinks she what she did was right even though it now could cost us everything we have or had. Now she is mad at because I opened my own account and moved my money over into and she thinks that we are all out to make her fail finanicially. Not the case I am just protecting myself from her spending everything on him when I leave to go back overseas.

PBear

I still don't understand... If my wife had moved away for two MONTHS for no reason, the discussion would have gone something like "We're a married couple, right? So either we're together or we're not. Your choice, but make it soon. Like this week".

I'm not blaming you for your wife cheating. I'm not blaming you for her moving away. But I really feel that you can't fix a marriage when you're living hundreds of miles apart. Of course, you can't fix a marriage if both people aren't fully committed to it either...

So if you want to make things work, your first step will be breaking up the affair. Your case will be tough, because going dark on her won't have much effect. You can try to blow it up through exposure, but I suspect you'll get a lot of shoulder shrugging from her family like "Well, what did you expect?". Or do you think her parents/friends will put any pressure on her to straighten up?

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jadams14

Well that is one thing that has happened is the fact that it has been exposed to her family and some friends. Now since I changed the bank account and moved money over into my own account she is pissed at me and said that I pushed her further away. She had a conversation with her father this morning about her thinking about what she is about to give up and then she found the money moved from the joint accounts.

jadams14

As far as I know the only physical thing they have did up to this point is kiss twice at least. She tells me that it has not gone any further then that but I believe it is a matter of time because he has tried to break up another friend of our relationship before and that was all sexual.

OldWolf57

just tell her you will not finance her love life, and she has shown you she can not be trusted. and ask her how she feels about what he did to your other friends marriage. also don't forget to close any joint credit cards, at least get your name off them.