Two weeks ago my wife cheated on me when I was out of town working. She cheated on me with one of her co-workers, and she has lied to me about everything. I didn't find out the truth until the guy she cheated on me with told me. We recently found out she was pregnant with possibly our 2nd child and she don't know whether it's mine or his. What should I do, please help, I am begging. My chest hurts all the time, I have forgave her, but the pain is still there. I have visions of them being together, I find it hard to trust anything she say's. I miss what we or what I thought we had. I am hurting so bad, I can't take this, I feel like I am losing my mind. Please Help, all advice will be appreciated.
I was in a long distance relationship with my gf and she ended up cheating on me. Distance can really do that to people. I'm not an expert, but there is a difference between forgiving and forgetting. I've forgiven my girl, but I most certainly will never forget.
Time heals all wounds. I felt like absolute crap for months after that, but I knew that I'd feel like super crap if I had left her. She promised me that it would never happen again and she was lonely. I believe her. Did you wife make any sort of promises/commitments to you and that it was just something stupid?
It does suck, but sometimes, **** just happens...Fool me once, shame on you...fool me twice, shame on me.
If I were in that situation it would be divorce or abortion. No other options. Obviously this wouldn't be possible for everyone. I read posts like this and wonder if the guy has any self respect at all.
You currently have 1 child. Do a paternity test on this child. Rather cheap, under $100?
If you stay with her, you would be stuck paying/raising someone else's child for 18 to 23 years.
You should separate your finances/assets from her's.
You should separate from your wife and initiate divorce proceedings. Let the divorce stretch out till after the baby is born. Do a paternity test then. (Or, you can do paternity tests in utero BUT it would be more expensive.)
The above is the simple answer. Whether you're emotionally capable of doing so and protecting yourself is all up to you.
One hurt husband I'm so sorry that your going through this..it's just awful. I hope you have family or friends who are able to support you right now?
I would ask the moderators to move this post to 'Coping with infidelity' ... theres alot of folk there who know about affairs first hand and can offer more help.
Try to keep your chin up buddy. The people on this forum have been excellent for me and I am sure they will be for you too. Don't do anything without thinking it through first (i.e., no knee jerk decisions).
Two weeks ago my wife cheated on me when I was out of town working. She cheated on me with one of her co-workers, and she has lied to me about everything. I didn't find out the truth until the guy she cheated on me with told me. We recently found out she was pregnant with possibly our 2nd child and she don't know whether it's mine or his. What should I do, please help, I am begging. My chest hurts all the time, I have forgave her, but the pain is still there. I have visions of them being together, I find it hard to trust anything she say's. I miss what we or what I thought we had. I am hurting so bad, I can't take this, I feel like I am losing my mind. Please Help, all advice will be appreciated.
I am a betrayed spouse and I feel your pain.
First get a DNA on the baby. If you agree to raise a child that is not yours you will have to pay child support if you ever decide to divorce.
Get the other man to pay to raise this child, now, if it is not yours and you try to reconcile.
I hate situations like this. She cheats and you pay the price. If she aborts, then she might resent you for her having to abort (even though the choice is hers) or if you leave, then it looks like you're abandoning her while she's pregnant. Love it, she cheats and you turn into the bad guy with any decision that's made.
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