06-06-2012, 10:07 AM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | Re: Wife cheated the second time!!!
I agree that with a repeat offender, you need to go the nuclear route. Nuke the marriage. Tap your emotions and just go off the deep end. Work hard so you no longer care if it works out or not. Don’t even try to ‘discuss’ this until after she’s hit rock bottom. You need to harden yourself and stop caring one bit about her... all the way from what she is doing to how she sees you. Go ahead and show her the monster. For all intents and purposes, you need to consider her a ghost who just haunts this house.... and go ahead and scream at that spectre...
Get all your stuff in order. Do it in the open. Consult lawyers, new bank accounts, make copies of all the financial records, put stops on the joint accounts, start talking in terms of her stuff / your stuff, research parenting plans, etc. The efforts she should witness is as far as she knows, all about getting rid of her. You want her panicking and overwhelmed by how fast you are moving on this. Chaos is your friend when dealing with a foggy spouse.
And hell yes that is hard. You love her. You really probably do want it work out. There will be days you just want to curl up and die. You can’t. Find that strength to shock her out of it. She needs to absolutely feel how seriously screwed up she’s made you and feel her world burning around her. How could she not see that coming?