06-08-2012, 01:00 PM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Re: Wife cheated the second time!!!
Originally Posted by macmanus76
My wife and I are both 36, we have been together since High school, we have 2 kids 11 and 16.
The first time she cheated on me was 2 years into our marriage.
I was having these strange feelings come over me for a bit and I just blurted out to her what the hell is going on with this guy and she finally told me that they went to lunch together once
and they kissed. My wife and I and the guy all worked together and she finally told me that she said he was going to become friends with me to get to her (she knew the whole damn time!!) and didnt care to tell me.well she said sorry I beleive in second chances so I forgave her but I was just starting to kinda come back out of my shell until july 4th of last year I found out that she had over a 1000 texts to this guy from her job before she went to work at 5:00am then they started as soon as she got off work non stop till 11:00 at night. I knew somthing was up so I confronted her about it, When I asked her I could see it in her eyes that she knew she was caught. She says she dont remember any of the texts (just a couple here and there) she said they met in a bank parking lot before work in the morning and always got out of the car, I asked her why she did this and she said that they flirted for awhile and he kept bugging her about kissing him for his birthday and she finally gave in and met him.
I know they met atleast 3 timeswithin 2 weeks.
She ran a mile down the street to meet him from our house while I stayed at a friends house and they went to a nearby school before he went to work.
I asked her whenever they met what did they say to eachother and she says not a word.
To give you an idea The texts started June 20th and stopped July 4th.
It makes me sick to be around her, She wonders why I dont talk much, I just can't understand how someone can do this to someone they love or care about. I gave her no reason to doubt me or not trust me.
I dont know what to do, I want the whole truth, I dont think I know everything, and Im afraid that I am going to stay just for the kids, I will never trust her again, and I dont wanna be around someone I can't trust.
Please someone tell me something advise, anything.
This would end the marriage for me. I have told my wife in no uncertain terms that I will try and forgive her for what she has done. I will work on making our marriage something that will make her happy and try to build the life together that we always wanted. I also told her that any further cheating of any kind, any contact with another man or woman that is anything but completely innocent and she would do with me sitting next to her is not acceptable. I told her I will not discuss it, I will not negotiate the lawyer will be the only person she speaks to.