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May be she's bipolar or something mate, be gentle with your ex - you don't want her pulling anymore stunts to disrupt your future relationships do you?
And i really do believe that your decision was the best. Peace of mind guaranteed
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This morning my spouse woke up and said "holy **** what did I do. I really was in a fog. How could I hurt you and my family like that. He never even cared about me."
Each day is more recognition. Each day gets a little better.
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This morning my spouse woke up and said "holy **** what did I do. I really was in a fog. How could I hurt you and my family like that. He never even cared about me."
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May be she's bipolar or something mate, be gentle with your ex - you don't want her pulling anymore stunts to disrupt your future relationships do you?
And i really do believe that your decision was the best. Peace of mind guaranteed
Whatever problems she has, they are hers, alone. I'm no longer involved. Even after the affair , I supported her struggle for mental health, but as some posters know, I was being her crutch. Now she has to work on her issues herself, without me. I wish her luck , but from a distance.
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Man words don't mean sh*t, let her actions do the talking. You keep your hard stance and don't budge, even if she starts crying like a b*tch don't be the beta boy and go console her.......just stand there watching her with a bored look.....sometimes b*tches fake things to see if they really have a hold on you......b*tches are programmed that way
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Man words don't mean sh*t, let her actions do the talking. You keep your hard stance and don't budge, even if she starts crying like a b*tch don't be the beta boy and go console her.......just stand there watching her with a bored look.....sometimes b*tches fake things to see if they really have a hold on you......b*tches are programmed that way
She knows I am serious, and she also knows that I am capable of stonewalling and walking away and never looking back as that is what I did in two previous relationships. She knows that right now I hold the cards to my future. She knows that nothing she says will make a difference and everything is in actions. I've said this matter of factly and in solid firmness.
We all know our spouses better than anyone else, so I do know that she is being sincere. What she did is honestly not like her at all, and I think she's even shocked herself that she could have done it too. Today she's racking her brain to herself to even figure out why she did this. She is realizing that everything she needed was right in front of her. I'm sitting in silence watching her learn her own lesson. I'm not being a push over, and I've told her clearly that walking away for me and starting over again is just as easy as staying and letting her fix her mess. She knows I mean it. She's making efforts and just starting to come to terms that everything from here on out is on her end to save her marriage until I feel comfortable enough to recommit any trust and serious feelings again.
She says it was the biggest mistake of her life, and I have said, prove it by actions and not words. I actually think she will.
I've told her that I am no longer proud of her, and she knows she is not proud of herself, and I said "Make yourself proud of yourself, and then perhaps I will learn to be proud of you too again".
I'm not blind, but I see enough effort and sincerity to allow me to stay. She knows that one simple sign of anything and I'll be gone. I have put my foot there and it won't budge. I will however be kinder, more compassionate, and more sensitive when she wants to talk but she knows my boundaries and I honestly doubt she will step over again knowing now what she will lose. Too bad it took all of this for her to realize everything she always wanted was right there in front of her.
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Anniversaries are going to be a tough time for the two of you. I hope that you both are going to IC and MC.
Absolutely. She is the one who is reading marriage help books, saving marriages, how to have great marriages etc, and is asking about seeking MC. The anniversary area will be hard for sure, but like I said earlier, I do know her to be a better person than this, and I think she feels like she's let herself down too. There is much regret, guilt, shame, and disbelief on her end that she could have become like everything she actually hates, (In her own words).
If I didn't see it I would be gone without a second glance.
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AK, with all due respect, you really need to get a dose of reality. If the OM had not dumped her, even if you served her papers, she would most likely still be with him, and you're OK with that? Did she do anything before he dumped her to show that she was feeling bad about what she was doing? So you got to surprise her, and have cussed her out a few times. So what? It's a matter of comparison. She got to eff another guy, almost left you and probably would have, gets to come back to easy street and what do you get in return? To be the second choice of a cheater. Also compare your situation to mine. I have a new woman who treats me like I was made of gold, don't have to worry about a cheating wife, and can enjoy life . You, on the other hand, will always be married to a cheater. Think about it.
I really do not understand why you make such rude comments. Think about this:
Coping with Infidelity Relationship recovery from the destructiveness of infidelity.
If you understand english, this is the section of TAM that you are on. What you are doing is no more than bashing someone who is trying to recover from infidelity. You are being the opposite of being helpful. You are being disrespectful and antagonistic. Good luck with that.
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@BIgLiam: They definitely are, which is why they brag about it as they're seeking validation from others. And most cheaters do it because they're seeking validation, example -> " He made me feel like a woman".While men are vocal about it because somewhere in their insecure hearts they know that the other guys are all appreciating it ( these guys are insecure too) while there're some men in the group who appreciate him alright but go behind his back and snigger about how they got to bone his wife
A big time counselor that does broadcasts on a religious radio station said every man he has counseled that cheated said his affair partner made him feel like a man.
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I really do not understand why you make such rude comments. Think about this:
Coping with Infidelity Relationship recovery from the destructiveness of infidelity.
If you understand english, this is the section of TAM that you are on. What you are doing is no more than bashing someone who is trying to recover from infidelity. You are being the opposite of being helpful. You are being disrespectful and antagonistic. Good luck with that.
Weird thing is , badblood gave his wife a second chance, initially.
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I really do not understand why you make such rude comments. Think about this:
Coping with Infidelity Relationship recovery from the destructiveness of infidelity.
If you understand english, this is the section of TAM that you are on. What you are doing is no more than bashing someone who is trying to recover from infidelity. You are being the opposite of being helpful. You are being disrespectful and antagonistic. Good luck with that.
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