Did anyone else catch their wife by sheer intuition?

morituri · 06-08-2012, 03:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Badblood

If I knew then, what I know now, I wouldn't have bothered.

If you were not hurting you would not have posted your initial thread "Why should I care?" You may be a battle tested marine - for which we will always be grateful for - but in this forum you are one of us.

Believe it or not I do agree with you but nevertheless I will respect those who will make a valiant effort to R even though, like you, I chose to D. Can't you do the same as well?

BigLiam · 06-08-2012, 06:58 AM

Yeah, I am pretty pro divorce, as well. But, no need to insult those who try R. You can advocate for divorce without personal attacks.

Badblood · 06-08-2012, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by morituri

If you were not hurting you would not have posted your initial thread "Why should I care?" You may be a battle tested marine - for which we will always be grateful for - but in this forum you are one of us.

Believe it or not I do agree with you but nevertheless I will respect those who will make a valiant effort to R even though, like you, I chose to D. Can't you do the same as well?

What other Bs's do is their business, and I , of course, hope that AK and Working, are successful in their attempt at Reconciliation. Where I differ, is that I don't believe that true R can take place as long as BS'S delude themselves by blaming the OP, or making excuses for their WS'S behavior. Self-delusion is the worst enemy that a BS faces.

Badblood · 06-08-2012, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by BigLiam

Yeah, I am pretty pro divorce, as well. But, no need to insult those who try R. You can advocate for divorce without personal attacks.

I insulted nobody. I am direct and honest. I would be doing nobody any good , if I was otherwise. Infidelity is a terrible Demon, and cannot be vanquished with platitudes, sympathy, wishes and delusions. It must be faced head-on, with honesty and clear-headed rationality.

WorkOnIt · 06-08-2012, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Badblood

What other Bs's do is their business, and I , of course, hope that AK and Working, are successful in their attempt at Reconciliation. Where I differ, is that I don't believe that true R can take place as long as BS'S delude themselves by blaming the OP, or making excuses for their WS'S behavior. Self-delusion is the worst enemy that a BS faces.

There's no delusional in what I am doing though. There's no excuse for what she did. I agree 100% with that. I can only take her for what I know her to be deep down inside, and also look at my own inside issues that may have contributed, but I by no means blame her affair on myself. These are issues she had in her head. All I am doing is giving her the opportunity to fix her choice, and if she doesn't I fix my life, move on, and enjoy what I can in life. If she makes another wrong choice that's her problem, and not mine. I won't hesitate to walk.