Boyfriends Secretary

highwood · 06-07-2012, 08:43 AM

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Originally Posted by one_strange_otter

I'm putting this under the category of "I'd rather have a bad somebody than nobody at all". He sees no boundaries, just someone willing to put up with his cheating ways. And he has the nerve to say he doesn't want to commit because people cheated on him? What a peice of work.

Also, there is at least one temporary staffing agency or workforce center of some kind in any city in the world. This OW is not his only choice when it comes to employees. If she had to learn that job, so can someone else.

CandieGirl · 06-07-2012, 09:07 AM

Dump him. What are you waiting for, him to leave you for her again? Honestly. Don't you think you are more deserving of a decent and loyal man than that?

CandieGirl · 06-07-2012, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by one_strange_otter

I'm putting this under the category of "I'd rather have a bad somebody than nobody at all". He sees no boundaries, just someone willing to put up with his cheating ways. And he has the nerve to say he doesn't want to commit because people cheated on him? What a peice of work.

Also, there is at least one temporary staffing agency or workforce center of some kind in any city in the world. This OW is not his only choice when it comes to employees. If she had to learn that job, so can someone else.

No kidding. Secretary, not surgeon.

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Hope1964 · 06-07-2012, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Hey Girl

There is so much more. You are right there is emotional abuse. I think I need to find out why I feel I cannot live without him. I feel pathetic. I am a very independent woman and always have been. I don't know what happened to me.

I think you need to find this out too. AFTER you kick the bum to the curb.

MattMatt · 06-07-2012, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Hey Girl

rl;805056]Do his partners know about the affair he had with her?

Are his partners having affairs with their secretaries?

No his partner is in relationship and this was kept from ... during her secret affair she spoke badly about the other partner and told my boyfriend every move he made ...
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From a purely business point of view, this is even worse!

MattMatt · 06-07-2012, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Hey Girl

There is so much more. You are right there is emotional abuse. I think I need to find out why I feel I cannot live without him. I feel pathetic. I am a very independent woman and always have been. I don't know what happened to me.

You fell in love with an idiot who is also a user. Sadly.

Hey Girl · 06-07-2012, 10:12 AM

I so many times wanted to tell his partner....he told me if I did he would file a restraining order against me and because of where I work I did not want to take the chance. The "secretary" now works for him again and she makes sure she stays late when my boyfriend stays late...they had to go to the bank and my boyfriend said he would meet her there....the bank is literally 2 miles from the office.....she said she didnt know where the bank was and needed to go with him in his truck....get this....the job she had prior to coming back to work for him was two doors down from the bank...is she playing games or what......

strugglinghusband · 06-07-2012, 10:13 AM

Why are you playing this game?

Unsure in Seattle · 06-07-2012, 10:15 AM

Please don't play his game and run like the wind.

one_strange_otter · 06-07-2012, 10:21 AM

Your the only one being played.

Cosmos · 06-07-2012, 10:23 AM

If this relationship is to survive, OP, your BF needs to fire this woman and break all contact with her. If he isn't prepared to do this, I can't see your relationship with him ever becoming healthy.

eowyn · 06-07-2012, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Hey Girl

He has said he does not want a committment.....he complained that his ex wife cheated, all other girlfriends didnt have good jobs etc. I am none of the above......I actually get along with my ex husband .......I had an amicable divorce....did not take him for anything at all....I would never take anyones money...I work and pay my mortgage and all my bills myself...I didnt take alimony and got a second job to get by....

Excuses ... Excuses and more Excuses to have a GF outside of his relationship with you!
So what if his ex-wife cheated, does that give him a permit to cheat on you?

And what does this have to do with the kind of job you have????? Is he staying with you for your money??

In my opinion it would be better to stay without a man, rather than stay with this man!! Commitment needs to work both ways. You will end up getting hurt if you hang in with this person. You need to find someone who will have more respect for you and understands the logistics of a committed relationship.

Hey Girl · 06-07-2012, 10:35 AM

He will not let her go....he thinks she is the only one that can keep his company going....that is never going to happen. I dont like that she stays late every every night just like she did in 2008.....

Hey Girl · 06-07-2012, 10:38 AM

He has nothing to do with my job and I definately do not support him financially in any way....it is just that I work in the legal field and I dont want to cause any embarrassment for myself when I have done nothing wrong. I know that he definately would have filed a restraining order against me when we broke up if I had contacted his partner. It would have been devastating to me and an embarrassment....

Eli-Zor · 06-07-2012, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Hey Girl

He will not let her go....he thinks she is the only one that can keep his company going....that is never going to happen. I dont like that she stays late every every night just like she did in 2008.....

Sometimes when you see the sign you have to read the message.

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He will not let her go

tells you all you need to know.

Walk away, get him out of your life, there are better men out there who are more than prepared to do what is required to protect their relationship with their SO's.