I do realize that but I cannot have him coming into my work and even trying and he knows that. That is why he threatened it. He knows that I dont want any conflict at my work. I have never dated anyone that I worked with for these reasons. I am not saying that people should not date at work but I will not. I work two jobs and this is not something that I will do no matter what because when things go sour it is not fun. My daughter dated someone she worked with and when they broke up it was for her.
I think what he knows is that you'll back down from any conflict or confrontation, so he can do whatever he likes and you won't stop him. And you've given him one more weapon o use against you. He'll probably also threaten to serve you with divorce papers at work if things don't go his way as well.
I suspect that most of your coworkers would actually applaude you for standing up to him...
If you want to tell his business partner the truth, why not inform your employer of the threats your bf made? Explain the situation then expose.
Or just walk away. You should leave him whether you choose to expose or not. He's an emotionally abusive cheater. He's going to gaslight and manipulate you the minute he sees you gaining strength. You should pack your stuff and move out when he's away. Line up an IC before you do so to make sure you have someone to lean on. It's going to be incredibly hard and you'll doubt yourself, but the sooner you leave the sooner you will heal. You deserve to be happy. Posted via Mobile Device
I wont give my line of work but I found this interesting. Specific legal requirements vary by State but are relatively the same everywhere. The last thing he will want to do is file a restraining order. There would need to be a hearing to justify it. Whats he going to say? Please Judge, dont let her tell the truth about all of my lying sleazy ways? Judge, I cant tell you any more because its all on transcript and recorded. Its just a threat. Thats all. I get threatened with them all the time. Its kind of humorous. As far as an engagement? Hell No! Run as fast as you can. Why even bother with exposing anything? He will get his with or without the exposure. I know the exposure would probably feel good in the short term, but its not worth all the extra drama that will come with it. You will already have enough when you cut and run. Take care of yourself first and get out now. He will never treat you like you should be treated. Hes already shown you that twice! There are plenty of real men out there looking for a wonderful woman like you. Be Strong!
By exposing him to his partner, what would that really get you,1) Him to see the error of his ways, and he would be all remorseful, nope, 2)get his patner pissed off, maybe?... hell, maybe his partner is banging her? 3)cause you even more anguish, ding ding we have a winner.
If you want out? just leave no if's ands or buts (well except him he is a butt/ass).
PS, even if he did try some BS at your work I would be willing to wage a very large sum that your coworkers and bosses would be there for you in more way than you can imagine. believe it or not there are some truly good people in this world, that will stand up for you and with you.
hi! im having the same problem with my boyfriend's secratary too! my bf runs his business at home as well. the secretary and the boyfriend is too close that the secretary would come inside his room to clean? is that what a secretary does? do the household chores? his defense was, they are friends. he fired the secretary just a month ago, but rehired her. modesty aside, but im so much prettier than her. they say i shouldnt worry because the secretary doesnt look good, but im not comfortable with their friendship, the secretary wont even like me to dine with them. another is, its too obvious that the secretary is inlove with my boyfiend. the boyfriend cant fire him because she does the work for him, thats why he rehired her even if he doesnt trust her(he doesnt trust her, thats what he said),but he knows that i get mad and irritable when they're together, the secretary would even pull his white hair! what should i do? pls help
Hey OP: Do you want to get married and/or is this current boyfriend someone that you would have had interest in marrying? If you are the type that does not believe in marriage and never plans to get married, then the question has no meaning. Otherwise, if you are one of the women out there who desires to get married, WHY are you still with someone if they have not proposed to you after dating for 6 YEARS?
As a guy, I knew that I wanted to find someone special to get married to and spend the rest of my life with. What I don't understand about this situation - and others like it wrt length of time spent dating - is wouldn't you know by 3 years max whether you are dating someone that you can spend the rest of your life with? You just inspired me to start a new thread.
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