She's venting on you about sh*t that isn't your fault and it's a positive because now you can take it quietly ?
You sound happy that she's now showing appreciation for the matt she's wiping the sh*t off her feet onto?
Sorry if I missed something... sounded like you said she made you feel like trash for no reason. But your happy cause this time she rubbed your back after she kicked you in the nuts.
pit-of-my-stomach is right, MattMatt you need to tell her that she's a mature individual and can discuss any problems she has in a mature way rather than unloading her crap onto you.
Tell her she's exhibiting unattractive behaviour on her part.
Thats as good as telling a man that he's useless get it?
And the best kind of punishment you can give her is to simply remove your attention when she's in a bad mood and go about doing your thing as if nothing happened. Just walk away when she's in a foul mood as if you can't hear her or just give her a confused look and walk out
There's another way in which you can entice her to avoid taking the dump on you, keep complimenting her when she does nice stuff for you. This will automatically crave for your approval even more and thus reduce bad behaviour on her part.
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She's venting on you about sh*t that isn't your fault and it's a positive because now you can take it quietly ?
You sound happy that she's now showing appreciation for the matt she's wiping the sh*t off her feet onto?
Sorry if I missed something... sounded like you said she made you feel like trash for no reason. But your happy cause this time she rubbed your back after she kicked you in the nuts.
No offense dude, I hope I just misread that.
She is an Aspie. So she really doesn't mean the stuff she says. That's why I try to swallow it.
It's not easy to explain.
Had I known she was an Aspie before I got together with her, would I still have got together with her and married her? Yes! In a f***ing heartbeat!
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This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.”
You need to be firm with her and tell her that if she does not get into some kind of cognitive behavioral therapy for her behavior, the marriage is not going to last.
Quit using her Aspergers as an excuse to let her get away with this garbage! She may be an academic, but she is also a social misfit, and needs to learn these skills whether the two of you stay together or not.
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