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Old 06-11-2012, 03:53 AM   #61 (permalink)
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I am going to tell you again , those 3 men we only new 2 of them . the one has a familly the other one too, the guy who was aged 36 is single I had to look for a room cause i was the only one working i wanted to open my business in france and if it would have worked my wife would have joined me.
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what I also found out that one of the lad has his bedroom right beside the single guy and i asked him did you hear anything , was my wife in the room and he said no .

then what was strange for him is that every time the single guy came home was always looking around and hanging around with my wife but he never touched her .he had feelings for her.
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Old 06-13-2012, 12:05 PM   #62 (permalink)
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Whether they should or should not be able to trust this is all nice and intellectual. This is still a very unreasnable thing to do. You do not entrust your wife in a house full of men not her relatives. There is no reason one should trust these men.
Of course there is no reason to trust the men, but he should be able to trust his wife.

It was financial situation not of his making and rooming with them was convenient

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Just saying that either one can keep their vows or not is more than a tad naive. This is an extreme situation and is not the same as not taking a trip on some guys lear jet.
How is it different? I was alone daily at this man's house for work? The lear jet was just an example of his wealth. My STBEH was struggling financially at that time in his own job and my income was important.

It has been said that cheating men are attracted to a younger companion that makes them feel virile.

And cheating woman are attracted to alpha males who can spend money on them. A lear jet screams alpha and money. I didn't take the bate despite his frequent invitations.

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It is amazing. Often women feel they have been abandoned. This is the most common feeling. How could their husband leave them? In this case how could their husband leave them and leave them with these men?
Huh. He left her there for a valid reason. That's obvious.
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Old 06-13-2012, 12:07 PM   #63 (permalink)
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What about family members? Couldn't you have placed your wife and children with one of them?
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Old 06-13-2012, 01:08 PM   #64 (permalink)
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I am going to tell you again , those 3 men we only new 2 of them . the one has a familly the other one too, the guy who was aged 36 is single I had to look for a room cause i was the only one working i wanted to open my business in france and if it would have worked my wife would have joined me.
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what I also found out that one of the lad has his bedroom right beside the single guy and i asked him did you hear anything , was my wife in the room and he said no .

then what was strange for him is that every time the single guy came home was always looking around and hanging around with my wife but he never touched her .he had feelings for her.
The saddest part of this is that you don't know for sure what really happened. EVEN THOSE 2 OTHER GUYS don't know anything fore real and can't say for sure, eventhough they didn't hear any noise. You don't have to make noises to call it a cheating and again, you don't have to make a noise to touch someone.
And if something happened, chances are they all agreed to keep it a secret.

It's still a surprise for me how you decided to throw your wife out there, in the middle of 3 other men.
You are to blame and so is she.
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What about family members? Couldn't you have placed your wife and children with one of them?
Uh, why should he have to? Is he supposed to be her parent? Didn't she take vows?
The paternalistic/guard your spouse role would just suck for me. If I can abide by my vows, my spouse should be able to.
What about this guy? His wife let him go to a strange , new locale without her. If he cheated, would it be because she allowed this?
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Uh, why should he have to? Is he supposed to be her parent? Didn't she take vows?
The paternalistic/guard your spouse role would just suck for me. If I can abide by my vows, my spouse should be able to.
What about this guy? His wife let him go to a strange , new locale without her. If he cheated, would it be because she allowed this?
No, he's not her parent but he is her protector. No way in hell would I leave my wife alone with three men. He's lucky that she isn't over at the surviving rape forum.
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No, he's not her parent but he is her protector. No way in hell would I leave my wife alone with three men. He's lucky that she isn't over at the surviving rape forum.


And the children as well. Their lives could also be in danger.
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