I want to first thank everyone who has shared their story-It is comforting, yet sad, to know that there are others who have dealt with infidelity.
In November of this year i caught my wife having an affair with a coworker. I told her it needs to end and yet it didn't. I left and she pleaded for me to come back and said she was sorry. We went to counseling together and she gets mad because the counselor takes my side. She has said sh would commit suicide so I called the police-that ended those threats. She calls me a dumba^& and an a hole when we get in an arguement so now I just walk away. She has broken my phone, our computer screen and has hit me when she gets angry. Recently I have noticed that her activity log on facebook account dealing with friends have empty spaces where friends should be. My gut is telling me her special friend is still popping up. I have never cheated on her nor would I NOW. But I know this is a toxic relationship not just for me, but for my two boys as well. The last thing I want them to be raised in is a house where they learn this is how a man should be treated. I know she has learned this behavior from her mom. And the thing about it is-is that she blames all of her problems on me-not her actions. I tried leaving once before and said how can you do this to our kids. My favorite sayings from her-put on big boy pants-Be a dad to our boys-You're too sensative-I don't remember ______doing that to you. Mind you, I am a teacher so being a father to my boys is the most important thing to me in the world! If you can give any advice on the situation then that would be great. Thank you for help and prayes!
Last edited by eljonesen; 06-08-2012 at 10:08 AM.