What about the OM wife?? Does she know that this is going on? He is attempting to R with his wife?? If there is nothing wrong with the friendship then find out if she is aware of it.
Even if she is not emotionally connected to this man now, this level of contact is inappropriate. She told you she would stop it, so tell her to stop it. Don't do it in a negative way.
Sit her down and say that marriages are built on emotional, and sexual attachment. Opposite sex friendships have the potential for damaging your relationship and any friendship with another man that delves into the emotional side of their personal lfe is a huge risk. One that you and she don't need to take.
This is not about controlling, this is about protecting her, you and and the most important relationship she has: your marriage.
In remembering what my wife was telling me their conversations tended to lean towards how his marriage was unfulfilling. My wife said that they both were being very cautious so they didn't cross any boundaries. I think that they he is looking for a connection and my wife is trying to fix thier relationship. Only problem is they are talking a good 40 minutes avg per day. I think that this is a road to hell quickly being paved with good intentions. This guy needs to be R with this BS rather than trying to find a best friend in my wife. This guys friend is making comments about how they are talking alot. It could just be innocent conversation. But how can you talk for fourty minutes a day about just random stuff. I think my wife's reaction will be extreme and all that but they only communicate over the phone. I will know for certain how deep this goes if they try and go underground.
No man has 70 minute conversations with a woman he doesn't want to screw. And I can't imagine that any woman is so naive to no know that regular hour long conversations daily are not WAYYY inappropriate. Plus the texting. This is anything but innocent.
I think she's in a hot and heavy physical relationship. That's WAY to much contact to be innocent.
My wife is stunningly beautiful. When she left her ex-husband several men offered to leave their marriages for her. She has been hit on by doctors, foreign diplomats, professional athlete's, and she gets eye-banged just about everywhere we go.
She is spending an hour or so on the phone regularly with a guy who has already cheated on his wife, but is in R. They talk about his marriage problems.
So to review the bidding, he is having regular hour-long private discussions with your hot wife about problems with his marriage--after he has already cheated on his wife. Something wrong with this picture you think? Better yet, what would his wife think about her cheater husband talking about their marriage problems with a woman who gets eye-banged just about everywhere she goes?
I would respectfully suggest that you don't need to meet him f2f. You need to meet him and his wife face to face and determine whether his wife is OK with the relationship. I'm just gonna venture a wild guess that she might have an objection or two... Your wife is not helping his marriage.
I thought about confronting the married guy myself but that wouldn't do me any good; after all, my wife is giving him what he wants and he is taking it.
No man has 70 minute conversations with a woman he doesn't want to screw. And I can't imagine that any woman is so naive to no know that regular hour long conversations daily are not WAYYY inappropriate. Plus the texting. This is anything but innocent.
I think she's in a hot and heavy physical relationship. That's WAY to much contact to be innocent.
Her previous husband was a emotionally and physically abusive person. My wife was almost killed before finally wising up. My wife did have affairs in her previous marriage due to the emotional abuse and her looking for some validation. Which is what he almost killed her for.
Yet, she is still doing that now. After all she went thru, she is not naive. This is a grown woman. Every man know to use his bad marriage to get a woman to feel for him. Oldest one in the book. Also " she is too smart to use the computer ". NAIVE ??? " my level of concern is very low ", yet you are here. You my friend, need to set your wife down, and just say no. NO close male friends, and no long chats. Now wait to see if controlling come out of her mouth. If so, then you just got to the bottom of it. You may get a lil buzz knowing others are wanting what you have, but if you want to keep it, you need to have the boundry talk. And why in the heck would you want to meet this guy ? His history and present say it all. My man, there comes a time when layed back looks like beta. Even his friends are talking huh ?? Well, that should tell you he is talking about her to them. NOW, can you tell me what do you think he is telling them. I bet his MC didn't tell his to find a beautiful woman to confide in. Wake up man.
My wife did have affairs in her previous marriage due to the emotional abuse and her looking for some validation. Which is what he almost killed her for.
as in plural?! this is dangerous
then I agree with Kando, this is inappropriate and the other man shouldn't confide in your wife his marital problems, that's what marriage counsellors are for.
I think it was an old Dr. Hook song that said 'when you're in love with a beautiful woman it's hard.' It appears that you enjoy having a trophy wife and get an ego boost because other men want what you have. If you don't put your foot down and let your wife knows that her friendship with this guy is inappropriate then you're just asking for them to screw each others brains out.
This is no time for political correctness. Time is of the essence. And believe me, she's not as naive as you make her out to be. A woman can tell when she's attracting attention from males.
I'm also curious about what qualities separate you from the star athletes, doctors, diplomats, and others that have been so enthralled by your wife.
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