I'm really not defending the act. I'm defending these two women, who in my opinion, may have certain pressure they gave into. It's like murder. Sometimes its first degree; sometimes its second, third, man slaughter etc. Their situation seems a little different than a woman who withholds love an affection from her husband while banging the rugby team.
If you've ever work in the judicial system you may think adultery is not on the top of the list when seeing things spouses do to each other. An example is a recent case here where a woman found her husband sexually abusing her 4 y/o son (his step son--while taking a bath together while she was out and came back unexpectedly ) I believe she may be willing to trade places with many on here who's husband is running around with a co-worker.
So exactly what are you condoning or "defending" then?
It seems like you're saying, "Oh, you poor thing. I understand exactly why you cheated on your neglectful, horrible husband. You had every right to cheat because he was just so awful. You go, Girl!"
And obviously there is always someone out there in more pain. Does that negate anyone else's pain BECAUSE somebody else has it worse? Please.
I'm sure you blamed your cheating all on your wife too and I'm sure you were forced into cheating by her neglect.
And what the hell is first degree cheating? BJ's in the back of a pick-up? Cheating is cheating. There are no degrees. Good grief.
Theories are nice, but I don't give a sh*t what he did to make her feel unloved or unwanted. Okay, he's emotionally stunted and lousy in the sack. You could level that against half the males in existence.
What she did in return is 10x worse.
He didn't rip her sense of her womanhood away from her the way she did him in such a blatant and disgusting manner.
I agree except it was not 10x times worse but 1000x times worse.
Now if they get divorced, and she wants to be completely honest with any man she is interested in having a relationship with, she's going to have to reveal to him how she cheated on her husband and how it ended their marriage. That should be something for her to look forward to and something that any man she falls for will love to know about her.
I agree except it was not 10x times worse but 1000x times worse.
Now if they get divorced, and she wants to be completely honest with any man she is interested in having a relationship with, she's going to have to reveal to him how she cheated on her husband and how it ended their marriage. That should be something for her to look forward to and something that any man she falls for will love to know about her.
Oh, but I'm sure she'll find the kind of man who will feel "oh so sorry for her" and buy her pathetic poor me story. Until she cheats on him when the going gets tough and she feels "empty inside" again.
I read your husband's thread and I recommended that he send you packing and file for divorce.
Nothing your husband did or didn't do warrants the utter humiliation, emasculation, pain and heartache you have inflicted on him with your amoral choices.
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Which is his thread? I wonder how HE remembers the last 27 years?
I agree except it was not 10x times worse but 1000x times worse.
Now if they get divorced, and she wants to be completely honest with any man she is interested in having a relationship with, she's going to have to reveal to him how she cheated on her husband and how it ended their marriage. That should be something for her to look forward to and something that any man she falls for will love to know about her.
Mori, what will happen if he was also less attentive than her AP or present H?
Her husband is now taking T treatments, he's getting much more sexual, and he is more engaged emotionally. He is seriously increasing what he can offer to a woman. The OP should realize this, and realize that many women are going to see him a great opportunity and make a play for him
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She thinks she is the drivers seat of choosing between her OM, who doesn't want to give her a commitment or full relationship, and a husband who has no other options than her.
Reality is, she can go back to a looser who can't get his own real full relationship full time with a woman. Instead he needs to take what he can get with another mans wife.
Meanwhile, her husband is raising his sex rank and quite possibly will soon realize he can find a better partner, younger, and more attractive than her.
OP needs to change her game plan to reflect that she isn't in strong position, but in fact is in a very weak one,where she looses. Posted via Mobile Device
You guys are enjoying this very much. To make this a little easier for you, you might want to consider moving over to my husband's thread, now, where I will be posting a new response.
No one is enjoying this. Most on her are hurting BS. A number of people are trying or have R with their WS. The problem here is you are blame shifing and making excuses.
I am sure your husband has problems that would need to be address in any R with you.
You have to take the first steps an take responsability for what you have done. You made the choice to cheat not him. Do not throw it on him and you should be very remorseful for what you have done to him.
If you want to fix your marriage all of the first steps are on your shoulders.
You guys are enjoying this very much. To make this a little easier for you, you might want to consider moving over to my husband's thread, now, where I will be posting a new response.
I doubt it's enjoyment.
We're all at different stages of experience, knowledge and maturity. There are lessons to learn from all this. Maybe from your experience you could impart wisdom onto your kids and others?
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