I think your wife is more despicable than anything the OM did. The OM only bought what your wife sold him. I don't think what he did was entirely wrong. He assumed that you were some controlling ******* that your wife was separating/divorcing from. He gave her a financial advice to get half of everything and was asking her not to touch you(as she told him that you were separating). I don't see anything outrageously wrong with it(except for starting a relationship with a separated but not yet divorced woman)
Yep... But he did call me a ****HOLE.
I dare him to say that to my face..
He'd be spitting chicklets for a long time, and will be if I ever see him.
She banged your roommate (OM1) when you went out of town before you got married.
She lets some guy who works across the hall from her store spend the night in your apartment. He supposedly slept on the couch. Sure.
She has an online EA with some guy from Egypt who refers to her as his wife. Call this guy OM3
She's mad at you on your wedding night because once again, she feels you didn't give her enough attention because she's so needy.
She has a PA with OM4, the one you went urban exploring with.
She gets a job working nights and has a PA with the carpool guy,OM5
She has an EA with a friend of yours, 15,000 text messages to him alone in one month. That's OM6.
She has a PA with the guy she met on a weight loss website, OM7
And from your original post:
You don't see where the problem is, do you? Its your WW. She was NEVER that into you from the beginning. You overheard her talking about you to the OM#7. Get this: If it wasn't him, it would have been someone else. Another man would have been OM#7.
I'm just presenting the facts as you have described them. Sorry, but she's laughing at you.
Didn't realize OP had so much drama going on in life; usually I don't touch these posts...
What's the deal with your marriage? Are you two trying to save it? Is the affair still ongoing?
Honestly, I have no idea.. she basically told me last weekend that she was on the fence. Trying to decide what she wanted. And yes, she still talks to him, they exchange dirty pics blah blah f'n blah.
As far as contacting him and getting revenge.. not really what I am going for. If he doesn't know about me, then he deserves to know the truth. He may or may not care.. doesn't really matter to me. I don't think he is married tho, so letting his W know won't be happening.
Just talk him and tell him what is happening as a matter of fact. Don't get emotional. Ask him if he knows about you. If he doesn't, tell him that he is the 7th guy that she cheated you on and you called to warn him about her lies. Wish him good luck and end the phone call.
Just talk him and tell him what is happening as a matter of fact. Don't get emotional. Ask him if he knows about you. If he doesn't, tell him that he is the 7th guy that she cheated you on and you called to warn him about her lies. Wish him good luck and end the phone call.
pretty much along the lines of what I was thinking
Just talk him and tell him what is happening as a matter of fact. Don't get emotional. Ask him if he knows about you. If he doesn't, tell him that he is the 7th guy that she cheated you on and you called to warn him about her lies. Wish him good luck and end the phone call.
And don't forget to ask him for some tips on how to short your WW.
Not sure if contacting the OM will do anything. Cheaters are liars. Yea part of me would like to talk to the OM but I do not see the sense of it. Typically what I have read on here over the past several months is generally you get nothing and if you lose control you butt may end up in jail. It is a crap shoot and I would not do it.
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keko: so you disagree that if didn't know about me then he doesn't deserve the truth? isn't that what people on this board are all about?
You're making it sound like he is the innocent party therefore he 'deserves' to know.
Since you're wife is flirting/maybe more with this guy, why didn't you kick her out yet? Even just changing the locks and putting her stuff in garbage bags outside of the door will do more then what the legal system can do.
She banged your roommate (OM1) when you went out of town before you got married.
She lets some guy who works across the hall from her store spend the night in your apartment. He supposedly slept on the couch. Sure.
She has an online EA with some guy from Egypt who refers to her as his wife. Call this guy OM3
She's mad at you on your wedding night because once again, she feels you didn't give her enough attention because she's so needy.
She has a PA with OM4, the one you went urban exploring with.
She gets a job working nights and has a PA with the carpool guy,OM5
She has an EA with a friend of yours, 15,000 text messages to him alone in one month. That's OM6.
She has a PA with the guy she met on a weight loss website, OM7
And from your original post:
You don't see where the problem is, do you? Its your WW. She was NEVER that into you from the beginning. You overheard her talking about you to the OM#7. Get this: If it wasn't him, it would have been someone else. Another man would have been OM#7.
I'm just presenting the facts as you have described them. Sorry, but she's laughing at you.
Seriously? That's messed up....beyond serial cheating....she's sociopathic or something. Or maybe like MattMatt's ex with Aspergers. No remorse, will never change.... Stop wasting your life and leaving it up to her what's going to happen. She's supposedly on the fence yet still sexting this last guy? That's not sitting on the fence. She's completely on the opposite side from you laughing her way out into those greener pastures....
Let her go....she will never love and respect you the way you need her to. Sorry man....
Don't bother contacting the OM. He's not worth it.
My WH told me I could contact OW if I wanted to confirm what he said about when the A started, that he was the one to end it, etc. I looked at him like he was insane and told him I am not talking to some Skank about MY marriage. Some immoral wh0re, that sleeps with married men, was not going to get the satisfaction of a phone call from me and no way was I going to lower myself to ask her questions about my marriage. He brought it up many times in the weeks following and I don't know if he had some sick fantasy about two women fighting over him because he knows I don't back down from confrontation but I was having none of it. I told him I had no desire to "confirm" anything with her and was not going to be listening to a word that came out of her lying mouth.
Although, admittedly I did send her an email when she began harassing me via email but that's because the trash had the nerve to involve my kids. My email was factual and to the point and I didn't engage in name calling, aside from telling her behaviour regarding involving our kids was despicable.
Anyway, I don't really think OM or OW's are worth it. They deserve to be treated like they are insignificant trash.
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